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Robbo-Jambo
15 hours ago, jack D and coke said:

This thread has to be one of KB’s finest moments. Strange to see posters who I see having a laugh and joke on other threads then a quick look on here and it’s them baring their soul and reaching out for some help and offering advice too. 
Good luck and keep it up guys👍🏼

It really is an eye opener. 

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LeftBack
7 hours ago, Takis4king said:

Thank you for taking the time to respond. Amazes me the kindness of people on this thread.

 

I can definitely relate to a lot of what you have said, especially the mundanity of adult life. I guess i struggle with making the most of what I do have and easily get stuck in a rut. I regularly think that life has to be better than what it is, at the moment it just seems a repetitive cycle with little to no excitement. Work, home, sleep, then so it all over again. 

 

Thanks for the kind words, will try and make the most of this period for sure. Hope you have a good one when it comes 👍

Certainly not downplaying it but i dont think its kindness as such... More so, that many of us have had direct experience of it and because of that its so important to help others. I know thats kind in itself but i see it as group therapy. People have helped me and therefore i want to help others. Anyway it all comes to same thing - its an incredibly important thread and its great knowing its helping... Me included 

Take care

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Swanny17

I hate new year. Makes me feel like shite and enraged with anger with regards to some of the shit I’ve had to put up with. 
 

Sorry.

 

😩😩😩

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Zlatanable
10 minutes ago, Swanny17 said:

I hate new year. Makes me feel like shite and enraged with anger with regards to some of the shit I’ve had to put up with. 
 

Sorry.

 

😩😩😩

You don't have to say sorry. 

 

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Dagger Is Back
11 minutes ago, Swanny17 said:

I hate new year. Makes me feel like shite and enraged with anger with regards to some of the shit I’ve had to put up with. 
 

Sorry.

 

😩😩😩


Hey buddy. No need to apologise. Sorry NY  brings up bad memories for you

 

 

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Arthur Morgan
19 minutes ago, Swanny17 said:

I hate new year. Makes me feel like shite and enraged with anger with regards to some of the shit I’ve had to put up with. 
 

Sorry.

 

😩😩😩

 

I kind of feel the same way mate, have done for the past few new years. Keep your head up 👍🏻

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FruitJuice
19 minutes ago, Swanny17 said:

I hate new year. Makes me feel like shite and enraged with anger with regards to some of the shit I’ve had to put up with. 
 

Sorry.

 

😩😩😩

Sorry to hear that mate.  I hope you're feeling better soon.  Don't give yourself a hard time if life is already doing that for you.  You know it's not you, its dealing with the shite others put you through  you're alright, it's them.  Treat it like an extra Sunday for lazing about and don't spare them a thought if it's down to others.  You're not alone in feeling rubbish on days that are supposed to be occasions when you just cant be ****ed for whatever reason.  Cliche time mate.  The best way out is through.  

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7 hours ago, Swanny17 said:

I hate new year. Makes me feel like shite and enraged with anger with regards to some of the shit I’ve had to put up with. 
 

Sorry.

 

😩😩😩

Absolutely no need to say sorry. Pm me if you want to unload. And all the best to all of us who know how you feel 

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Salad Fingers

The festive season is a hard time if you're suffering from depression/anxiety. Having to spend a lot of money, sometimes money you don't have, putting on a brave face at nights out and events, the forced happiness on Christmas day and Hogmany. 

 

I had a particularly bad festive period a few years back. I ended up drinking a hell of a lot, sometimes hammering a litre of vodka in a day.  I was also "taking" a lot, which my mates were only to happy to provide. 

 

It all become too much a few days after new year and I went to the doctors and was put on anti-depressants. Best move I ever made and it allowed me time to cut down on my alcohol use and stop the other stuff.

 

Some people just don't understand it. The long dark nights and miserable weather don't help at this time of year. 

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46 minutes ago, Salad Fingers said:

The festive season is a hard time if you're suffering from depression/anxiety. Having to spend a lot of money, sometimes money you don't have, putting on a brave face at nights out and events, the forced happiness on Christmas day and Hogmany. 

 

I had a particularly bad festive period a few years back. I ended up drinking a hell of a lot, sometimes hammering a litre of vodka in a day.  I was also "taking" a lot, which my mates were only to happy to provide. 

 

It all become too much a few days after new year and I went to the doctors and was put on anti-depressants. Best move I ever made and it allowed me time to cut down on my alcohol use and stop the other stuff.

 

Some people just don't understand it. The long dark nights and miserable weather don't help at this time of year. 

Aye the drink is a quick fix at the time but wont help your situation in  the long run.

Very true about the dark nights, cant wait till the spring.

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Just now, Salad Fingers said:

The festive season is a hard time if you're suffering from depression/anxiety. Having to spend a lot of money, sometimes money you don't have, putting on a brave face at nights out and events, the forced happiness on Christmas day and Hogmany. 

 

I had a particularly bad festive period a few years back. I ended up drinking a hell of a lot, sometimes hammering a litre of vodka in a day.  I was also "taking" a lot, which my mates were only to happy to provide. 

 

It all become too much a few days after new year and I went to the doctors and was put on anti-depressants. Best move I ever made and it allowed me time to cut down on my alcohol use and stop the other stuff.

 

Some people just don't understand it. The long dark nights and miserable weather don't help at this time of year. 

Went to the doc this week to ask about medication and he advised to stay onto the spring. As well as the dark nights and weather he said people generally feel better in run up to summer 

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1 hour ago, Salad Fingers said:

The festive season is a hard time if you're suffering from depression/anxiety. Having to spend a lot of money, sometimes money you don't have, putting on a brave face at nights out and events, the forced happiness on Christmas day and Hogmany. 

 

I had a particularly bad festive period a few years back. I ended up drinking a hell of a lot, sometimes hammering a litre of vodka in a day.  I was also "taking" a lot, which my mates were only to happy to provide. 

 

It all become too much a few days after new year and I went to the doctors and was put on anti-depressants. Best move I ever made and it allowed me time to cut down on my alcohol use and stop the other stuff.

 

Some people just don't understand it. The long dark nights and miserable weather don't help at this time of year. 

Very good post.

Always glad to get back in the old routine.

Not a sun worshiper but always look forward to the lighter days.

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Captain Canada
On 01/01/2020 at 11:16, The Real Maroonblood said:

Very good post.

Always glad to get back in the old routine.

Not a sun worshiper but always look forward to the lighter days.

 

I'm the same, I feel like I almost shut down over November, December and January and just try to get through the days as best I can until there's more daylight. 

 

As mentioned above, putting a brave face on things at nights out is really tough. I was in two minds whether or not to go to my Christmas night out with work a few weeks back. In the end I went along but didn't drink. A couple of comments were made about how I wasn't  massively enthusiastic about the activity we were doing before the meal. People don't think or realise the kind of impact little comments like that can have. 

 

I wasn't enjoying it at all because of my anxiety and came close to just walking out and going home. 

 

My plan for this year is to get out into nature as much as possible. Going to the beach or climbing a hill really help to boost my mood. I've also started cycling which will be good when the lighter nights come back. 

 

Hopefully some of the above will help someone else. It can be very isolating living with anxiety and depression but it helped me when I first realised I wasn't the only person going through it. 

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FruitJuice
5 hours ago, Captain Canada said:

 

I'm the same, I feel like I almost shut down over November, December and January and just try to get through the days as best I can until there's more daylight. 

 

As mentioned above, putting a brave face on things at nights out is really tough. I was in two minds whether or not to go to my Christmas night out with work a few weeks back. In the end I went along but didn't drink. A couple of comments were made about how I wasn't  massively enthusiastic about the activity we were doing before the meal. People don't think or realise the kind of impact little comments like that can have. 

 

I wasn't enjoying it at all because of my anxiety and came close to just walking out and going home. 

 

My plan for this year is to get out into nature as much as possible. Going to the beach or climbing a hill really help to boost my mood. I've also started cycling which will be good when the lighter nights come back. 

 

Hopefully some of the above will help someone else. It can be very isolating living with anxiety and depression but it helped me when I first realised I wasn't the only person going through it. 

Heard something a few months ago about what defines healthy.  The world health organisation currently define being healthy as someone who is off sound physical, mental and emotional health.  How many of us are ever all that on any given day?  They are looking at redefining it to.  Do you live a life that you value living?  You can have one hand and still live a life that you value.   

Thought I'd post that because of what you said about getting out into nature etc to get yourself better and to say sometimes we just feel a bit down in life.  Don't give yourself a hard time if life is already doing that for you.  The winter months affect people differently and sometimes it's about just getting your head down.  You're right about people maki g comments that they don't realise that are having an impact.  Luckily things are changing that way due to different campaigns.  Things are slowly changing but we are getting there.  Hope you get through this period and getting out into nature etc has the effect you want.  

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7 hours ago, Captain Canada said:

 

I'm the same, I feel like I almost shut down over November, December and January and just try to get through the days as best I can until there's more daylight. 

 

As mentioned above, putting a brave face on things at nights out is really tough. I was in two minds whether or not to go to my Christmas night out with work a few weeks back. In the end I went along but didn't drink. A couple of comments were made about how I wasn't  massively enthusiastic about the activity we were doing before the meal. People don't think or realise the kind of impact little comments like that can have. 

 

I wasn't enjoying it at all because of my anxiety and came close to just walking out and going home. 

 

My plan for this year is to get out into nature as much as possible. Going to the beach or climbing a hill really help to boost my mood. I've also started cycling which will be good when the lighter nights come back. 

 

Hopefully some of the above will help someone else. It can be very isolating living with anxiety and depression but it helped me when I first realised I wasn't the only person going through it. 

Mate i can totally identify. Couldnt go to my xmas night out, just made my excuses. Wasn't even going to try and put myself through something that was making me feel so bad. The week before i went out with a great group of friends (and a hibbee). My sister literally has to talk me out the house but was so glad i went. One of my friends took me aside at one point and said i was looking really stressed and that made me feel really great. Work colleagues are that. Your friends are your friends 

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The Real Maroonblood
9 hours ago, Captain Canada said:

 

I'm the same, I feel like I almost shut down over November, December and January and just try to get through the days as best I can until there's more daylight. 

 

As mentioned above, putting a brave face on things at nights out is really tough. I was in two minds whether or not to go to my Christmas night out with work a few weeks back. In the end I went along but didn't drink. A couple of comments were made about how I wasn't  massively enthusiastic about the activity we were doing before the meal. People don't think or realise the kind of impact little comments like that can have. 

 

I wasn't enjoying it at all because of my anxiety and came close to just walking out and going home. 

 

My plan for this year is to get out into nature as much as possible. Going to the beach or climbing a hill really help to boost my mood. I've also started cycling which will be good when the lighter nights come back. 

 

Hopefully some of the above will help someone else. It can be very isolating living with anxiety and depression but it helped me when I first realised I wasn't the only person going through it. 

You seem to have more positive thoughts with the cycling, going to the beach and hill climbing on your agenda 

I find walking particularly in the countryside is very therapeutic.

Best wishes to you for the future. 

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Captain Canada
5 hours ago, FruitJuice said:

Heard something a few months ago about what defines healthy.  The world health organisation currently define being healthy as someone who is off sound physical, mental and emotional health.  How many of us are ever all that on any given day?  They are looking at redefining it to.  Do you live a life that you value living?  You can have one hand and still live a life that you value.   

Thought I'd post that because of what you said about getting out into nature etc to get yourself better and to say sometimes we just feel a bit down in life.  Don't give yourself a hard time if life is already doing that for you.  The winter months affect people differently and sometimes it's about just getting your head down.  You're right about people maki g comments that they don't realise that are having an impact.  Luckily things are changing that way due to different campaigns.  Things are slowly changing but we are getting there.  Hope you get through this period and getting out into nature etc has the effect you want.  

 

Thanks very much for taking the time to reply FJ. I really appreciate it. 

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Captain Canada
2 hours ago, LeftBack said:

Mate i can totally identify. Couldnt go to my xmas night out, just made my excuses. Wasn't even going to try and put myself through something that was making me feel so bad. The week before i went out with a great group of friends (and a hibbee). My sister literally has to talk me out the house but was so glad i went. One of my friends took me aside at one point and said i was looking really stressed and that made me feel really great. Work colleagues are that. Your friends are your friends 

 

Thanks very much LeftBack. My default setting is to avoid work nights out but I was worried I'd not really been socialising much so pushed myself to go. It was hard going in parts and I didn't really enjoy it but I'm glad in a way that I pushed myself out of my comfort zone. 

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FruitJuice
4 minutes ago, Captain Canada said:

 

Thanks very much for taking the time to reply FJ. I really appreciate it. 

Just remember that you are surrounded by help and support.  Just ask for it and it's there.  Don't keep these things to yourself. 

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1 hour ago, The Real Maroonblood said:

You seem to have more positive thoughts with the cycling, going to the beach and hill climbing on your agenda 

I find walking particularly in the countryside is very therapeutic.

Best wishes to you for the future. 

 

Thanks very much for your reply, it's much appreciated. I think living within four walls at work and at home can make things more difficult so even though I'm pretty anxious most of the time, I'm going to try to do more in the outdoors and I'm sure it will help over time. 

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Just now, FruitJuice said:

Just remember that you are surrounded by help and support.  Just ask for it and it's there.  Don't keep these things to yourself. 

 

Thanks mate. I go through cycles of feeling ok for a while and then much worse in the winter. I've got used to it I suppose and am still guilty of bottling things up at times even though I know from past experience, that's the least helpful thing to do. 

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Riddley Walker

Everything is honestly getting too much. Too much to even begin to explain on here but I'm starting to wonder if it's even worth it anymore.

Lost motivation to do ****ing anything and avoiding everything I can.

 

Gets to the stage when you wonder if there's even any point carrying on.

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rudi must stay
37 minutes ago, Riddley Walker said:

Everything is honestly getting too much. Too much to even begin to explain on here but I'm starting to wonder if it's even worth it anymore.

Lost motivation to do ****ing anything and avoiding everything I can.

 

Gets to the stage when you wonder if there's even any point carrying on.

 

To be honest I am thinking I need a career change and to make some big life decisions, it has only dawned on me really being the nice guy has only made me the fall guy to my boss and he is really a bully who has been very unfair and patronising to me over the years and I have taken it when others wouldnt. It sounds like you have factors in your life too, need to put them right mate and you'll feel good again, this is atleast a start👍

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8 hours ago, Riddley Walker said:

Everything is honestly getting too much. Too much to even begin to explain on here but I'm starting to wonder if it's even worth it anymore.

Lost motivation to do ****ing anything and avoiding everything I can.

 

Gets to the stage when you wonder if there's even any point carrying on.

 

Sorry to hear this. I've felt exactly the same way quite a few times but there is always a point in carrying on. 

 

It always helped me to speak to someone to get a different perspective on things. If things have been bad for a while, it can be difficult to change how you see and think about the situation. 

 

I quite often felt helpless and looking back, didn't get help for a long time even though I knew something was wrong. I don't know your situation but if there's anyone you can talk to, even if they're removed from what's going on, that would be a good place to start. I have always found it easier to talk to people who aren't friends or family, but everyone is different. 

 

Getting out of your usual environment even for a day or two can help a lot as well and give you time and space to think more clearly about what's going on and what to do next. 

 

I hope that helps in some small way. Feel free to message me if you need to. 

 

Take care 

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8 hours ago, Riddley Walker said:

Everything is honestly getting too much. Too much to even begin to explain on here but I'm starting to wonder if it's even worth it anymore.

Lost motivation to do ****ing anything and avoiding everything I can.

 

Gets to the stage when you wonder if there's even any point carrying on.

It would be easy to say that everything will be OK and you are just going through a tough time. But the fact that you have admitted to feeling the way you do shows you don't want to feel the way you are. There is plenty of point in carrying on buddy. Go and see your doctor and explain how you are doing. And ffs if you need to talk there is plenty of help... Even to an ****hole like me... 

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Been racked with guilt these past couple of months. My grandad passed away but 2 months ago but before he was Ill I had already booked and paid for a holiday to Corfu. He passed away and the funeral was booked for when I was away. I was in two minds whether to go or not but my Nana basically told me to go and i did. I have never felt so guilty about something in my life. Still haven't forgiven myself.and wish I cancelled the whole thing. 

 

Been problems with my marriage because I felt and still feel the wife pressured me to go on holiday rather than support me through it all.

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1 hour ago, AlimOzturk said:

Been racked with guilt these past couple of months. My grandad passed away but 2 months ago but before he was Ill I had already booked and paid for a holiday to Corfu. He passed away and the funeral was booked for when I was away. I was in two minds whether to go or not but my Nana basically told me to go and i did. I have never felt so guilty about something in my life. Still haven't forgiven myself.and wish I cancelled the whole thing. 

 

Been problems with my marriage because I felt and still feel the wife pressured me to go on holiday rather than support me through it all.

Dont beat yourself up on the decision you made, your nana wanted you to go 

on holiday, and im sure your grandad would have felt the same, take time to talk to your wife

and talk it through. sorry for your loss bud.

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2 hours ago, AlimOzturk said:

Been racked with guilt these past couple of months. My grandad passed away but 2 months ago but before he was Ill I had already booked and paid for a holiday to Corfu. He passed away and the funeral was booked for when I was away. I was in two minds whether to go or not but my Nana basically told me to go and i did. I have never felt so guilty about something in my life. Still haven't forgiven myself.and wish I cancelled the whole thing. 

 

Been problems with my marriage because I felt and still feel the wife pressured me to go on holiday rather than support me through it all.

I think you might be feeling this way due to still grieving.  Your nan said go for it.  Maybe going away has just delayed the grieving process for you.  You know you wouldn't have just thought stuff it I could do with a holiday.  

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6 hours ago, AlimOzturk said:

Been racked with guilt these past couple of months. My grandad passed away but 2 months ago but before he was Ill I had already booked and paid for a holiday to Corfu. He passed away and the funeral was booked for when I was away. I was in two minds whether to go or not but my Nana basically told me to go and i did. I have never felt so guilty about something in my life. Still haven't forgiven myself.and wish I cancelled the whole thing. 

 

Been problems with my marriage because I felt and still feel the wife pressured me to go on holiday rather than support me through it all.

Maybe have a chat about your feelings of guilt with your nan? I’m sure she wouldn’t want you feeling bad about it. 

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6 hours ago, AlimOzturk said:

Been racked with guilt these past couple of months. My grandad passed away but 2 months ago but before he was Ill I had already booked and paid for a holiday to Corfu. He passed away and the funeral was booked for when I was away. I was in two minds whether to go or not but my Nana basically told me to go and i did. I have never felt so guilty about something in my life. Still haven't forgiven myself.and wish I cancelled the whole thing. 

 

Been problems with my marriage because I felt and still feel the wife pressured me to go on holiday rather than support me through it all.

Alim?

 

Obviously I can only go on what you have posted but, the way I read it is, your nana told you to go on holiday. Correct so far?

 

Without knowing what your wife said I can't be certain about the next bit, but here goes with my assumption anyway.  

 

Your wife has said 'yeah, we should go on holiday, even nana said we should'.

 

If that is what took place, then I think you are being a wee bitty unfair on your lady.

 

If it's not as simple as that or, I've got it all wrong and there is more to it, then just ignore my rambling post!!

 

Anyhow, none of what happened is down to you. I know what your grandad meant to you as you have mentioned him in high regard many times on here over the years. 

 

Have a heart to heart with your wife and, for heavens sake, don't risk losing someone else who is dear to you.

 

Wishing you all the best, Alim.

 

Morgan

 

 

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18 hours ago, Captain Canada said:

 

Thanks mate. I go through cycles of feeling ok for a while and then much worse in the winter. I've got used to it I suppose and am still guilty of bottling things up at times even though I know from past experience, that's the least helpful thing to do. 


Sounds very silly but try a vit D supplement. Part of the reason might be the darkness and lack of sunlight/daylight. Wont cure all but may help a tiny bit

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52 minutes ago, sadj said:


Sounds very silly but try a vit D supplement. Part of the reason might be the darkness and lack of sunlight/daylight. Wont cure all but may help a tiny bit

 

Cheers Sadj, I'll definitely give that a try. Thanks for taking the time to reply! 

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4 minutes ago, Captain Canada said:

 

Cheers Sadj, I'll definitely give that a try. Thanks for taking the time to reply! 

Anytime , one of the best things on here is this and the number of people who offer to be here as a shoulder or ear. 
 

one thing i always recommend to clients is to read up on l-glutamine as Serotonin levels are so important and a lot of it is produced in your guts. So gut health is really important.

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Dagger Is Back
9 hours ago, AlimOzturk said:

Been racked with guilt these past couple of months. My grandad passed away but 2 months ago but before he was Ill I had already booked and paid for a holiday to Corfu. He passed away and the funeral was booked for when I was away. I was in two minds whether to go or not but my Nana basically told me to go and i did. I have never felt so guilty about something in my life. Still haven't forgiven myself.and wish I cancelled the whole thing. 

 

Been problems with my marriage because I felt and still feel the wife pressured me to go on holiday rather than support me through it all.


Man that’s a tough place to be. I’d ask yourself this. What would your Grandad have wanted you to do?

 

Given what your Nana said, and she told you to go, I think you’re going really tough on yourself. 
 

Grief has many stages as you know. It’s easy to carry some form of guilt or blame around with you.

 

Take care buddy

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Dagger Is Back
1 hour ago, sadj said:


Sounds very silly but try a vit D supplement. Part of the reason might be the darkness and lack of sunlight/daylight. Wont cure all but may help a tiny bit


Doesn’t sound silly at all. I’m taking a Vit D supplement because of the lack of daylight/sunlight in the winter months.

 

I’m happy to give anything a go 

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4 minutes ago, Dagger Is Back said:


Doesn’t sound silly at all. I’m taking a Vit D supplement because of the lack of daylight/sunlight in the winter months.

 

I’m happy to give anything a go 


Well definitely have a read up on these two supplements , maca root powder (immune system and other things 🤭) but more importantly the L-Glutamine (there is glutamine peptides too) the peptides i avoid (if i remember correctly they are wheat based and it doesnt agree with me) even just the 10 or so basic health benefits make it a no brainer to me as a bloke over 30 (welllll over 30) 👍🏻
 

https://www.google.co.uk/search?q=l-gluramine+health+bebefits&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8&hl=en-gb&client=safari

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Dagger Is Back
On 04/01/2020 at 12:40, Captain Canada said:

 

I'm the same, I feel like I almost shut down over November, December and January and just try to get through the days as best I can until there's more daylight. 

 

As mentioned above, putting a brave face on things at nights out is really tough. I was in two minds whether or not to go to my Christmas night out with work a few weeks back. In the end I went along but didn't drink. A couple of comments were made about how I wasn't  massively enthusiastic about the activity we were doing before the meal. People don't think or realise the kind of impact little comments like that can have. 

 

I wasn't enjoying it at all because of my anxiety and came close to just walking out and going home. 

 

My plan for this year is to get out into nature as much as possible. Going to the beach or climbing a hill really help to boost my mood. I've also started cycling which will be good when the lighter nights come back. 

 

Hopefully some of the above will help someone else. It can be very isolating living with anxiety and depression but it helped me when I first realised I wasn't the only person going through it. 


I think your plan is a sound one. The benefits of exercise and the release of endorphins are massive.

 

The trick is turning that plan into action, as you know. 
 

It’s one of my soapbox rants when I see the education system cutting back on PE for our kids.

 

Good luck for the year ahead CC.

 

Tomorrow, sunset in Edinburgh is at 1556. By 18 January is 1617.

 

Summers on its way

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Dagger Is Back
7 minutes ago, sadj said:


Well definitely have a read up on these two supplements , maca root powder (immune system and other things 🤭) but more importantly the L-Glutamine (there is glutamine peptides too) the peptides i avoid (if i remember correctly they are wheat based and it doesnt agree with me) even just the 10 or so basic health benefits make it a no brainer to me as a bloke over 30 (welllll over 30) 👍🏻
 

https://www.google.co.uk/search?q=l-gluramine+health+bebefits&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8&hl=en-gb&client=safari


Thank you sadj. I’ll have a read up on that. Thanks for sharing 

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9 hours ago, AlimOzturk said:

Been racked with guilt these past couple of months. My grandad passed away but 2 months ago but before he was Ill I had already booked and paid for a holiday to Corfu. He passed away and the funeral was booked for when I was away. I was in two minds whether to go or not but my Nana basically told me to go and i did. I have never felt so guilty about something in my life. Still haven't forgiven myself.and wish I cancelled the whole thing. 

 

Been problems with my marriage because I felt and still feel the wife pressured me to go on holiday rather than support me through it all.

 

As others have said, it sounds like you're giving yourself too hard a time over this. Your Nana helped make the decision for you but I do understand how you're feeling after an experience I had many years ago. 

 

I know it's easy for a stranger to say online, but I'm sure you had many amazing memories with your Grandad, so try to focus on those rather than missing the funeral. 

 

Please don't be too hard on yourself. Like all of us, you're just one person trying their best to navigate through life! 

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9 minutes ago, Dagger Is Back said:


I think your plan is a sound one. The benefits of exercise and the release of endorphins are massive.

 

The trick is turning that plan into action, as you know. 
 

It’s one of my soapbox rants when I see the education system cutting back on PE for our kids.

 

Good luck for the year ahead CC.

 

Tomorrow, sunset in Edinburgh is at 1556. By 18 January is 1617.

 

Summers on its way

 

Thanks very much Dagger. I usually feel better by mid-February. Good to see the sunsets will be getting that bit later, even in January.

 

All the best 

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10 minutes ago, Dagger Is Back said:


I think your plan is a sound one. The benefits of exercise and the release of endorphins are massive.

 

The trick is turning that plan into action, as you know. 
 

It’s one of my soapbox rants when I see the education system cutting back on PE for our kids.

 

Good luck for the year ahead CC.

 

Tomorrow, sunset in Edinburgh is at 1556. By 18 January is 1617.

 

Summers on its way

 

That stat has cheered me right up.

 

I've had an ok Winter, although had a few off days but a few years back I had an absolutely horrific Winter where I found myself crying most days and not having the courage to do basic everyday things in public.

 

Don't ever think you're alone or daft for feeling bad during these months as you are apart of the majority. Excercise and Vit D is a good start. I found that once my mood started to pick up it felt easier coming clean about how I felt. Nowadays I tell randoms at work how I've felt even if they don't ask - I'm not fussed if they truly care or not it's just good to get it off my chest. Who knows maybe they are bottling their feelings up as well?

 

 

 

 

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23 hours ago, Riddley Walker said:

Everything is honestly getting too much. Too much to even begin to explain on here but I'm starting to wonder if it's even worth it anymore.

Lost motivation to do ****ing anything and avoiding everything I can.

 

Gets to the stage when you wonder if there's even any point carrying on.


The motivation point is a big one for me this past 6 months. I have to keep telling myself to go do something around the house or go for a walk, anything really. I’ve been signed off work since the last week in may due to reasons I already posted about a few months ago. 
 

Every day seems like a struggle, the fact is if I didn’t have my daughter to keep me busy and entertain I’d probably never leave the house. 
 

I am planning on trying to go back to work in a few weeks on a part time basis on the days my daughter goes to nursery , slightly dreading it but I think I need some routine/ structure in my life again . I don’t mind the work , more dreading the small talk and people asking how I am and stuff, not that much of a talker tbh. Before then I intend to do some DIY this coming week around the flat to get me doing more rather than wasting my days away in front of the tv or computer. 

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3 hours ago, Jeff said:

 

That stat has cheered me right up.

 

I've had an ok Winter, although had a few off days but a few years back I had an absolutely horrific Winter where I found myself crying most days and not having the courage to do basic everyday things in public.

 

Don't ever think you're alone or daft for feeling bad during these months as you are apart of the majority. Excercise and Vit D is a good start. I found that once my mood started to pick up it felt easier coming clean about how I felt. Nowadays I tell randoms at work how I've felt even if they don't ask - I'm not fussed if they truly care or not it's just good to get it off my chest. Who knows maybe they are bottling their feelings up as well?

 

 

 

 


Glad it brought some positive news. 
 

Wise words indeed. Behind every door is a story. Just having the courage to speak out and people who listen can make a world of difference 

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Hope everyone is doing ok after going back to work. I have to admit I was struggling a bit by Friday but hopefully this week will be easier. 

 

I went out to the beach yesterday despite the rain and wind and felt much better for it. 

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2 hours ago, Captain Canada said:

Hope everyone is doing ok after going back to work. I have to admit I was struggling a bit by Friday but hopefully this week will be easier. 

 

I went out to the beach yesterday despite the rain and wind and felt much better for it. 

Glad to hear you’re sounding positive.

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1 hour ago, The Real Maroonblood said:

Glad to hear you’re sounding positive.

 

Cheers! 

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2 hours ago, Captain Canada said:

Hope everyone is doing ok after going back to work. I have to admit I was struggling a bit by Friday but hopefully this week will be easier. 

 

I went out to the beach yesterday despite the rain and wind and felt much better for it. 

Brilliant mate. Definitely being active helps 

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1 minute ago, LeftBack said:

Brilliant mate. Definitely being active helps 

 

Thanks LB! 

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On 05/01/2020 at 01:47, Riddley Walker said:

Everything is honestly getting too much. Too much to even begin to explain on here but I'm starting to wonder if it's even worth it anymore.

Lost motivation to do ****ing anything and avoiding everything I can.

 

Gets to the stage when you wonder if there's even any point carrying on.

How are you doing mate? 

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