Breaking up with your Partner.

[Walrus]

I feel better every week mate. There is obviously some times when it hits me again and i end up deep in thought and not feeling too great but generally the week has been ok. As I've mentioned previously, i have to see her when i go to look after the kids every weekend. That usually knocks me back a bit when she leaves 30 mins later to stay at her mates. This weekend should be interesting. Can't be helped though.  

 

Glad to hear it Greedy. 

 

It's now 5 months since my ex and I parted ways. You are always going to get times when you feel down about it mate. Just last week I got another letter from her lawyers with what she wants from the profits if I sell the house, all claimed under Section 28. My lawyers are confident that she doesn't have a case however just the stress off it put me on a bit of a downer. 

 

Then last weekend a family member of mine noticed that a guy I had thought she may have been seeing has a new profile picture of the two of them. The guy in question has clearly blocked me since putting the picture up in an attempt to keep me from finding out. She hasn't said anything despite us both agreeing we would tell each other when we started seeing new people, just as a courtesy. Not saying anything to her though, just gonna ride it out and see how long she keeps it a secret for. 

 

Not easy seeing your baby mamma with another man. 

[Greedy_Jambo]

Glad to hear it Greedy. 

 

It's now 5 months since my ex and I parted ways. You are always going to get times when you feel down about it mate. Just last week I got another letter from her lawyers with what she wants from the profits if I sell the house, all claimed under Section 28. My lawyers are confident that she doesn't have a case however just the stress off it put me on a bit of a downer. 

 

Then last weekend a family member of mine noticed that a guy I had thought she may have been seeing has a new profile picture of the two of them. The guy in question has clearly blocked me since putting the picture up in an attempt to keep me from finding out. She hasn't said anything despite us both agreeing we would tell each other when we started seeing new people, just as a courtesy. Not saying anything to her though, just gonna ride it out and see how long she keeps it a secret for. 

 

Not easy seeing your baby mamma with another man. 

 

I can imagine. It must be gut wrenching.

I've not found any evidence that my ex is seeing anyone, so I've came to the conclusion that she isn't. It has definitely settled me down and made the whole thing easier to deal with.

[Greedy_Jambo]

WelI, I had a long talk with my ex this morning.

 

I told her all the things I'd done to improve my life and that i was indeed getting on with things. Although i was not ready to give up on her.

 

She told me it's not gonna happen and that all the years of me drinking and being a ^^^^ to her had ground her down and left her with no confidence.

She said that she is happier within herself now that we're no longer together.

 

I tried to explain to her that it was the drink that made me the way i was and that i wasn't myself. I've not touched a drop in 3 weeks and i won't be going back there.

In short, I told her i just want to take care of her and make her happy, do all the things i should of done with her ect.

 

She used phrases like "It's too little, too late", "the ship has sailed with us"

 

I suppose that's it now. We've both said all there is to be said.

She's got every right to feel the way she does and there's no quick fix for it.

 

I'm far from being the state I was when i first made this thread but i can't help feeling down and frustrated because i know that given the chance i would make things right with her.

 

Happy Sundays.

 

[jambo1961]

Greedy its over take the bitter pill, swallow it and move on the best you can

 

Seems to me your Ex  is saying as it is and letting you know how it is

 

Sad as it is for you, you are single again take that in and slowly but surely things will improve of that I'm sure, many of us have been in your shoes

 

Dont go down the Denial route that will just cause you untold pain

 

All the best with your struggle  though

[Der Kaiser]

WelI, I had a long talk with my ex this morning.

 

I told her all the things I'd done to improve my life and that i was indeed getting on with things. Although i was not ready to give up on her.

 

She told me it's not gonna happen and that all the years of me drinking and being a ^^^^ to her had ground her down and left her with no confidence.

She said that she is happier within herself now that we're no longer together.

 

I tried to explain to her that it was the drink that made me the way i was and that i wasn't myself. I've not touched a drop in 3 weeks and i won't be going back there.

In short, I told her i just want to take care of her and make her happy, do all the things i should of done with her ect.

 

She used phrases like "It's too little, too late", "the ship has sailed with us"

 

I suppose that's it now. We've both said all there is to be said.

She's got every right to feel the way she does and there's no quick fix for it.

 

I'm far from being the state I was when i first made this thread but i can't help feeling down and frustrated because i know that given the chance i would make things right with her.

 

Happy Sundays.

It's gonna hurt for a while and you won't stop thinking about "what ifs" or "if only".

 

Two years ago I was devastated when my wife walked out. I can comfortably say now I wouldn't take her back. I'm happy, love my job and I've even had a "buddy" for a while. I feel I'm a better person whilst my wife has gone the opposite way. Sure that might just be my opinion but it's how I feel. And I can't lie, the Prozac helped as well. She's still an arsehole to me sometimes but it doesn't bother me anymore. Time....patience my young padawan

[Greedy_Jambo]

Greedy its over take the bitter pill, swallow it and move on the best you can

 

Seems to me your Ex  is saying as it is and letting you know how it is

 

Sad as it is for you, you are single again take that in and slowly but surely things will improve of that I'm sure, many of us have been in your shoes

 

Dont go down the Denial route that will just cause you untold pain

 

All the best with your struggle  though

 

I suppose I'm a glutton for punishment.

 

Although in a way i feel better that we've both got everything we had to say off our chests. I suppose it's a kind of closure.

I know there's nothing else i can say now.

[iantjambo]

WelI, I had a long talk with my ex this morning.

 

I told her all the things I'd done to improve my life and that i was indeed getting on with things. Although i was not ready to give up on her.

 

She told me it's not gonna happen and that all the years of me drinking and being a ^^^^ to her had ground her down and left her with no confidence.

She said that she is happier within herself now that we're no longer together.

 

I tried to explain to her that it was the drink that made me the way i was and that i wasn't myself. I've not touched a drop in 3 weeks and i won't be going back there.

In short, I told her i just want to take care of her and make her happy, do all the things i should of done with her ect.

 

She used phrases like "It's too little, too late", "the ship has sailed with us"

 

I suppose that's it now. We've both said all there is to be said.

She's got every right to feel the way she does and there's no quick fix for it.

 

I'm far from being the state I was when i first made this thread but i can't help feeling down and frustrated because i know that given the chance i would make things right with her.

 

Happy Sundays.

To her credit mate,at least she's told you straight and not leaving you hanging onto false hope. Now you can start moving on with your life,as difficult as I know this may seem just now. Take the experience as a very hard life lesson.

 

I'm truly gutted for you mate,it's something that I and many others on this thread have gone through at one time or another and so trust us when we say it'll get easier.

 

Now you know what's what,time to get yourself sorted out with your own place and move on.

[Greedy_Jambo]

It's gonna hurt for a while and you won't stop thinking about "what ifs" or "if only".

 

Two years ago I was devastated when my wife walked out. I can comfortably say now I wouldn't take her back. I'm happy, love my job and I've even had a "buddy" for a while. I feel I'm a better person whilst my wife has gone the opposite way. Sure that might just be my opinion but it's how I feel. And I can't lie, the Prozac helped as well. She's still an arsehole to me sometimes but it doesn't bother me anymore. Time....patience my young padawan

 

Yeah. I suppose time is all I've got left. (without trying to sound depressed) Ha.

[jambo1961]

I once kept an ex's Burds jacket in my wardrobe

 

Every time I opened the wardrobe I  seen it, my word it hurt but i kept it for a few months it was a long time ago and I was hurting

 

Then after a few months I binned it, it was silly of me  to hang on to nothing really but I was young, best thing I done as from that moment I accepted my lot and moved on

 

We all do and deal with things differently but I know where you are and wish you all the best as you move on

[Greedy_Jambo]

To her credit mate,at least she's told you straight and not leaving you hanging onto false hope. Now you can start moving on with your life,as difficult as I know this may seem just now. Take the experience as a very hard life lesson.

 

I'm truly gutted for you mate,it's something that I and many others on this thread have gone through at one time or another and so trust us when we say it'll get easier.

 

Now you know what's what,time to get yourself sorted out with your own place and move on.

 

That would really help mate. Got a bit of wait in that regard though

 

It's my old man that's giving me a loan of the money for a flat and he's not wanting me to rush into anything. He thinks she's being rash and there's 3 kids to think of ect. I've not told him about the conversation i had with her this morning though. I'll talk to him later.

[Taffin]

I suppose I'm a glutton for punishment.

 

Although in a way i feel better that we've both got everything we had to say off our chests. I suppose it's a kind of closure.

I know there's nothing else i can say now.

 

With all the positive steps you've taken mate you'll end up feeling much better about yourself as a person and other people will see it too.

 

When I came home from travelling and my ex finished with me I was distraught. Made a lot of changes in my life, became a better person, made new friends and got a great job. In time, that landed me an amazing new partner. I was static, stationary and on the path to a miserable existence. The pain changed everything. This is an opportunity to recycle your life, seize it.

[iantjambo]

That would really help mate. Got a bit of wait in that regard though

 

It's my old man that's giving me a loan of the money for a flat and he's not wanting me to rush into anything. He thinks she's being rash and there's 3 kids to think of ect. I've not told him about the conversation i had with her this morning though. I'll talk to him later.

Yeah I know mate, sorry I didn't mean it to sound that finding a place was so easy. Even as you're looking though you'll start to feel better. It's good that your dad is helping you out financially (although it's probably because he wants you out from under his feet ). Him thinking it's harsh though is probably just a generation thing, I don't know how old your dad is but I think it's a fair guess that he grew up and got married in an era where splitting up was fairly uncommon. It'd be a good idea to sit down and explain the situation.

[Greedy_Jambo]

With all the positive steps you've taken mate you'll end up feeling much better about yourself as a person and other people will see it too.

 

When I came home from travelling and my ex finished with me I was distraught. Made a lot of changes in my life, became a better person, made new friends and got a great job. In time, that landed me an amazing new partner. I was static, stationary and on the path to a miserable existence. The pain changed everything. This is an opportunity to recycle your life, seize it.

 

I was the same. I told her yesterday that although the break up has been painful she has actually saved my life. I'd of just sat around drinking myself into the ground otherwise.

 

I know things will get better. I just wish i could press the fast forward button.

[Greedy_Jambo]

Yeah I know mate, sorry I didn't mean it to sound that finding a place was so easy. Even as you're looking though you'll start to feel better. It's good that your dad is helping you out financially (although it's probably because he wants you out from under his feet ). Him thinking it's harsh though is probably just a generation thing, I don't know how old your dad is but I think it's a fair guess that he grew up and got married in an era where splitting up was fairly uncommon. It'd be a good idea to sit down and explain the situation.

 

Ha. Aye, he's been married for about 40 years. Neither my mum or dad can understand the whole situation lol. It's frustrating talking to them sometimes.

[Irufushi]

Chin up greedy, try and stay positive mate.

[Jambo Forever]

Greedy, I messaged you a few days back regarding this.

I had a similar chat about what I'd change etc but was told nothing could save it. I deleted every message and kept that last one as a reminder to not text her again.

 

I've turned my focus to my daughter and viewing houses for us. I also had a night out on Friday with my mates and out next again sat. Try keep yourself occupied mate it genuinely does work.

 

What I would say is don't go looking for clues about what she's up to. Your minds an evil thing at times and you will start to drive yourself mad.

 

Best of luck mate

[Greedy_Jambo]

Greedy, I messaged you a few days back regarding this.

I had a similar chat about what I'd change etc but was told nothing could save it. I deleted every message and kept that last one as a reminder to not text her again.

 

I've turned my focus to my daughter and viewing houses for us. I also had a night out on Friday with my mates and out next again sat. Try keep yourself occupied mate it genuinely does work.

 

What I would say is don't go looking for clues about what she's up to. Your minds an evil thing at times and you will start to drive yourself mad.

 

Best of luck mate

 

Glad to hear you're getting on with life mate. I know what you mean about the clues and your mind being evil. It's played many a trick on me. Everything I've thought was going on or accused her of has turned out to be untrue. I'm usually pretty good with detective work!

[Sooperstar]

'Plenty of dosh, living in the best part of edinburgh'

 

 

How many two bedroom flats are there in barnton?

 

 

On topic, another weekend, trust greedy is feeling a bit more positive this weekend than last

Plenty, I live in one!

[Greedy_Jambo]

Is there fake folk on Tinder?

 

I just got a match and she looks like a friggin porn star!

 

Bit suspicious like.

[AlimOzturk]

Is there fake folk on Tinder?

 

I just got a match and she looks like a friggin porn star!

 

Bit suspicious like.

 

Go on yerself greedy.

[Irufushi]

Is there fake folk on Tinder?

 

I just got a match and she looks like a friggin porn star!

 

Bit suspicious like.

[lewis2006]

Is there fake folk on Tinder?

 

I just got a match and she looks like a friggin porn star!

 

Bit suspicious like.

Nah everyone on it is 100% legit.

 

Best bet is to send dick pics to any matches...usually works a treat likes.

[Greedy_Jambo]

Nah everyone on it is 100% legit.

 

Best bet is to send dick pics to any matches...usually works a treat likes.

What would be the point in making a fake tinder account though? Are they gonna try and get me to transfer money to a Nigerian bank account? They'll be dissapointed when they find out I've not got a pot to piss in.

[Morgan]

Is there fake folk on Tinder?

 

I just got a match and she looks like a friggin porn star!

 

Bit suspicious like.

Feck suspicion.

 

Get intae it.

[AlimOzturk]

What would be the point in making a fake tinder account though? Are they gonna try and get me to transfer money to a Nigerian bank account? They'll be dissapointed when they find out I've not got a pot to piss in.

I met my wife nearly ten years ago so Tinder is well before my time. However, I think I can safely assume you won't be looking for a life Partner and these bursd will be using filter and shite.

 

Wouldn't worry about it to Much and just enjoy the ahem ride.

[Morgan]

I met my wife nearly ten years ago so Tinder is well before my time. However, I think I can safely assume you won't be looking for a life Partner and these bursd will be using filter and shite.

Wouldn't worry about it to Much and just enjoy the ahem ride.

Subtle.

 

Edited March 12, 2017 by Morgan

[AlimOzturk]

Subtle.

 

So easy for this generation. Download an app, find a bursd, meet and ride.

 

I actually had to go out to meet women I my day.. Make an effort. Now all they do is swipe.

[Morgan]

So easy for this generation. Download an app, find a bursd, meet and ride.

I actually had to go out to meet women I my day.. Make an effort. Now all they do is swipe.

My day?

 

Alim? You're 27 mate.

 

Wish I was 27.

 

[AlimOzturk]

My day?

 

Alim? You're 27 mate.

 

Wish I was 27.

 

Never had Tinder when I was single

 

Had plenty of fish though

[Салатные палочки]

I honestly think getting a few notches on your newly single bedpost with different women will help as crass as that sounds. Tinder and POF gives you access to guaranteed meets with loads of different women.  The elephant man could get a date on there.  If you are a decent looking bloke, dress well and are well groomed you will do a hell of a lot of damage.  Okay, a huge percentage of them are not girlfriend material but most of them are a guaranteed lay and you will honestly have some fun dates.  And keep the Online Dating thread burning.  

 

It's now over and as hard as it sounds you need to take it on the chin.  I pined over my ex for almost a year before I got back out dating and when I did, I honestly felt like a new man, my confidence was back and I actually found I could talk to girls again.  I threw out any stuff I had of hers and any pictures and deleted all her pics off my phone, computer and any photographs I had.  

 

We now have a decent relationship.  Both of us are seeing other people and I continue to see my daughter regularly for overnights along with her brother. We are civil towards each other (it's hard not to be when you have spent so much time together) and I don't hate her as much as I thought I would.  Now when I think about her I feel no emotion, she is just another person to me.  

 

Keep active, keep up your contact with the kids, keep in touch with friends and try and get out as much as possible.  The old saying is true..."there's plenty more fish in the sea".  

[Harry Potter]

Nah everyone on it is 100% legit.

 

Best bet is to send dick pics to any matches...usually works a treat likes.

Aye very good, then some roaster behind that fake profile wants to blackmail you .

Better meeting in a place where there are loads o decent folk.

Take her to a Hearts game.

[Harry Potter]

My day?

 

Alim? You're 27 mate.

 

Wish I was 27.

 

You act about 21 mate, thats a compliment , like your posts.

[Morgan]

 

My day?

Alim? You're 27 mate.

Wish I was 27.

You act about 21 mate, thats a compliment , like your posts.

 

Cheers Harry!

 

I'm actually 28

[Greedy_Jambo]

Right lads, How does this plenty of fish site work?

 

I've got 5 folk wanting to meet me apparently but when i click on it, it want's me to upgrade!

 

I've also got a token. What the hell is that for?

Edited March 13, 2017 by Greedy_Jambo

[AlimOzturk]

Right lads, How does this plenty of fish site work?

 

I've got 5 folk wanting to meet me apparently but when i click on it, it want's me to upgrade!

 

I've also got a token. What the hell is that for?

When I used it it was totally free. Must have to pay if you want to message them back.

[chester copperpot]

Cheers Harry!

 

I'm actually 28

STONE

[chester copperpot]

Right lads, How does this plenty of fish site work?

 

I've got 5 folk wanting to meet me apparently but when i click on it, it want's me to upgrade!

 

I've also got a token. What the hell is that for?

Waiting for them to PM you. When I split with the ex I put a rather unusual profile on but got loads of PM's

 

I basically said that if the lassie didn't accept me and my kids then they could GTF. The PM's rang off the hook.

 

But then again, I am as handsome as they come

Edited March 13, 2017 by chester copperpot

[Greedy_Jambo]

There's some right howlers on there. Make's me miss my ex again ffs.

[GorgieMIlls]

There's some right howlers on there. Make's me miss my ex again ffs.

 

Never know - yiu might meet her on it

[Morgan]

STONE

KILOS.

[Morgan]

Waiting for them to PM you. When I split with the ex I put a rather unusual profile on but got loads of PM's

I basically said that if the lassie didn't accept me and my kids then they could GTF. The PM's rang off the hook.

But then again, I am as handsome as they come

MODEST.

[Greedy_Jambo]

POT is riddled with fake profiles. That's the 3rd one I've had contact me today. Every time they give you a link to talk to them somewhere else. 

[Greedy_Jambo]

Can anyone recommend a good solicitor that does legal aid? Edinburgh area. 

I've decided just to be brutal and get what i'm due. I can't/don't trust her. 

[Prince Buaben]

Can anyone recommend a good solicitor that does legal aid? Edinburgh area. 

I've decided just to be brutal and get what i'm due. I can't/don't trust her. 

 

Whats happened Greedy?

 

moving her new bloke in?

[mrmarkus1981]

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[gaza_1986]

Can anyone recommend a good solicitor that does legal aid? Edinburgh area.

I've decided just to be brutal and get what i'm due. I can't/don't trust her.

Greedy PM and i'll pass on some details

[iantjambo]

 

• 1RSC SOLICITORS

  1A HILL STREET, Edinburgh

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  Edinburgh

  EH2 2JG

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  7 Abercromby Place, Edinburgh

  Edinburgh

  EH3 6LA

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  Edinburgh

  EH1 3EN

  0131 556 3737

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  EH3 8HE

  0131 229 1212

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  EDINBURGH

  EH3 9AH

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  EDINBURGH

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[Greedy_Jambo]

Whats happened Greedy?

 

moving her new bloke in?

 

Not that i'm aware but she's just being a total cow to me. Everything is to suit her and i don't trust her.

[Greedy_Jambo]

Greedy PM and i'll pass on some details

 

Your inbox must be full mate. 

I can't send you a PM.

[Greedy_Jambo]

I used RSC and a bloke called Colin Simpson when I was trying to get regular access to my daughter. He was really good.

 I've managed to get an appointment with a woman at RSC. 

It's in 2 weeks time though. Is that a normal amount of time to wait?