Morgan Posted December 17, 2023 Share Posted December 17, 2023 People that have wronged you. You may want to forgive them, but when it comes right down to it, you just know you can’t. I have four. Two from a long time ago, one from four years ago and one from this year. Never forgive, never forget. Aim for revenge. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
been here before Posted December 17, 2023 Share Posted December 17, 2023 Nah life's too short. Move on, **** them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dirty Deeds Posted December 17, 2023 Share Posted December 17, 2023 Forgive and forget but clearly have zilch to do with them going forward Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Morgan Posted December 17, 2023 Author Share Posted December 17, 2023 3 minutes ago, Dirty Deeds said: Forgive and forget but clearly have zilch to do with them going forward Fair points, no doubt about it. But, you’d have to know the circumstances in full. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudyJudyJudy Posted December 17, 2023 Share Posted December 17, 2023 You don’t need to forgive . Just walk away from them . Have nothing more to do with them . Dont even waste time thinking of them . Never let them have any place in your thoughts . Move on . If it’s really bad shit they did , Karma usually takes care of them . Revenge is pointless . It can consume you and take up negative energy . It can only create negativity for you . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Morgan Posted December 17, 2023 Author Share Posted December 17, 2023 Just now, Jim_Duncan said: Paint their home town red and burn it to the ground. This, I like. 👍 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Morgan Posted December 17, 2023 Author Share Posted December 17, 2023 Or, do to them what they did to you. Twice over. 👹 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ulysses Posted December 17, 2023 Share Posted December 17, 2023 4 minutes ago, JudyJudyJudy said: You don’t need to forgive . Just walk away from them . Have nothing more to do with them . Dont even waste time thinking of them . Never let them have any place in your thoughts . Move on . If it’s really bad shit they did , Karma usually takes care of them . Revenge is pointless . It can consume you and take up negative energy . It can only create negativity for you . Karma usually doesn't, in my experience. Part of letting go is accepting that reality. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ulysses Posted December 17, 2023 Share Posted December 17, 2023 20 minutes ago, Morgan said: People that have wronged you. You may want to forgive them, but when it comes right down to it, you just know you can’t. I have four. Two from a long time ago, one from four years ago and one from this year. Never forgive, never forget. Aim for revenge. What exactly is forgiveness, though? I don't forget easily, but I'm not one for bearing grudges. That's not the same as forgiveness, but it's a better path to self-containment and maintaining mental health, IMO. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudyJudyJudy Posted December 17, 2023 Share Posted December 17, 2023 2 minutes ago, Ulysses said: Karma usually doesn't, in my experience. Part of letting go is accepting that reality. Fair enough . But my completely ignoring the person in every conceivable war from has helped me in moving on . However for that person I am thinking of he will / is repeating the same behaviours he did with me and I can’t see it ending well for him , so maybe that’s what I mean by “ karma” Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudyJudyJudy Posted December 17, 2023 Share Posted December 17, 2023 1 minute ago, Ulysses said: What exactly is forgiveness, though? I don't forget easily, but I'm not one for bearing grudges. That's not the same as forgiveness, but it's a better path to self-containment and maintaining mental health, IMO. Agreed re grudges . I don’t hold any . I just move , close the door , new chapter . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dawnrazor Posted December 17, 2023 Share Posted December 17, 2023 23 minutes ago, Morgan said: People that have wronged you. You may want to forgive them, but when it comes right down to it, you just know you can’t. I have four. Two from a long time ago, one from four years ago and one from this year. Never forgive, never forget. Aim for revenge. Aim for revenge, keep that hatred, bitterness and vitriol burning inside, energies it until the when the day comes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lone Striker Posted December 17, 2023 Share Posted December 17, 2023 8 minutes ago, Morgan said: Or, do to them what they did to you. Twice over. 👹 I think you have to weigh up how much harm to your own health & wellbeing there's likely to be if you do that, compared to the envisaged satisfaction you think you'd get. And for how long that harm or satisfaction is likely to last. Remember that life is getting shorter for us all with reach passing day. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Day@theraces Posted December 17, 2023 Share Posted December 17, 2023 33 minutes ago, Morgan said: People that have wronged you. You may want to forgive them, but when it comes right down to it, you just know you can’t. I have four. Two from a long time ago, one from four years ago and one from this year. Never forgive, never forget. Aim for revenge. Do please tell. I've noticed these folk mentioned in previous posts. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cade Posted December 17, 2023 Share Posted December 17, 2023 Each day you're expending your energy on revenge fantasies, they're just winning all over again. Be bigger than that. Be better than that. Pour your energies into something positive. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Der Kaiser Posted December 17, 2023 Share Posted December 17, 2023 I'm like my Dad. Dont suffer fools gladly. If you severely piss me off....or my sons....we're done. Will drop you in a second and lose not a second of sleep. Probably only done it 3 times in my life but absolutely no regrets. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Real Maroonblood Posted December 17, 2023 Share Posted December 17, 2023 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SupaJT Posted December 17, 2023 Share Posted December 17, 2023 Read a good quote recently that stuck with me: Holding onto a grudge or resentment is like drinking poison and hoping for the other person to die Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudyJudyJudy Posted December 18, 2023 Share Posted December 18, 2023 39 minutes ago, SupaJT said: Read a good quote recently that stuck with me: Holding onto a grudge or resentment is like drinking poison and hoping for the other person to die So true Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudyJudyJudy Posted December 18, 2023 Share Posted December 18, 2023 Or “ don’t let hate get into your heart , it’s will build a home there. “ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pap Posted December 18, 2023 Share Posted December 18, 2023 1 hour ago, Morgan said: Or, do to them what they did to you. Twice over. 👹 2 whacks of a pool cue over the head? 🙂 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cosanostra Posted December 18, 2023 Share Posted December 18, 2023 I'm a titanic over-reactor for an hour or two then I get over things just as quickly. Best to move on and just cut toxic people from your life and never have anything to do with them again. If they reach out or try to make amends I just ignore it. Once they're gone, they're gone. No hate, just complete disregard. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
martoon Posted December 18, 2023 Share Posted December 18, 2023 I've posted this opinion before but hatred only hurts the hater. The hated either don't know they're hated and those who do tend not to give a toss. Hate eats away at you; not they feckers. I know that from personal experience as hatred for an individual nearly drove me insane about a decade back. He's deid now, which has also helped. 🙃 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mysterion Posted December 18, 2023 Share Posted December 18, 2023 3 hours ago, martoon said: I've posted this opinion before but hatred only hurts the hater. ^^ This. scientifically shown that hatred of things causes the body to act negatively & effectively making you ill. doesn’t mean you shouldn’t process the annoyance but compartmentalising it quick to move on is actually healthier for the body. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Negan Posted December 18, 2023 Share Posted December 18, 2023 Life's too short to hold grudges over petty things. Iv seen it within my own family and within friend groups too. Thankfully they were resolved in the end. If its an unforgivable thing that they've done, make your feelings know, and move on. Dishing out their own medicine doesn't always make you feel better and the problem will still be there. Revenge isn't always sweet. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
John Findlay Posted December 18, 2023 Share Posted December 18, 2023 I don't do forgiveness or revenge. I just cut them off at the waist. I sleep easy every night. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Real Maroonblood Posted December 18, 2023 Share Posted December 18, 2023 Fortunately I’ve never been in that position. Life's a breeze. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
the posh bit Posted December 18, 2023 Share Posted December 18, 2023 11 hours ago, Morgan said: People that have wronged you. You may want to forgive them, but when it comes right down to it, you just know you can’t. I have four. Two from a long time ago, one from four years ago and one from this year. Never forgive, never forget. Aim for revenge. 11 hours ago, Dawnrazor said: Aim for revenge, keep that hatred, bitterness and vitriol burning inside, energies it until the when the day comes. 100%. Never forgive, never forget. Revenge is dish best served cold. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pap Posted December 18, 2023 Share Posted December 18, 2023 "You can't make friends with your enemies. Even when peace time is declared, they're all still ****ing enemies. Aren't they? Nothing is ever forgotten". Mark Brandon "Chopper" Reid Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
highlandjambo3 Posted December 18, 2023 Share Posted December 18, 2023 11 hours ago, Cade said: Each day you're expending your energy on revenge fantasies, they're just winning all over again. Be bigger than that. Be better than that. Pour your energies into something positive. This……file the memory in a wee lead box and lock it away…..move on, focus on who is important in your life and your next happy day with them (football, meal out, holiday etc). The people that have wronged you know what they have done, let them carry their own burden. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
noskillson Posted December 18, 2023 Share Posted December 18, 2023 "He who seeks revenge must first dig two graves". Old Chinese proverb Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
heartandsoul Posted December 18, 2023 Share Posted December 18, 2023 14 hours ago, JudyJudyJudy said: You don’t need to forgive . Just walk away from them . Have nothing more to do with them . Dont even waste time thinking of them . Never let them have any place in your thoughts . Move on . If it’s really bad shit they did , Karma usually takes care of them . Revenge is pointless . It can consume you and take up negative energy . It can only create negativity for you . Really good advice Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KG1874 Posted December 18, 2023 Share Posted December 18, 2023 For me it’s never say never. My best mate wronged me and I went roughly 4 year without talking to him but for whatever reason the 3rd time he reached out something telt me it was time. I’ll never know for sure but If I went the next 30 years without speaking to him I’d have probably regretted it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudyJudyJudy Posted December 18, 2023 Share Posted December 18, 2023 41 minutes ago, heartandsoul said: Really good advice It’s how I live my life . Just move on . Let them get on with theirs . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Morgan Posted December 18, 2023 Author Share Posted December 18, 2023 13 hours ago, Pap said: 2 whacks of a pool cue over the head? 🙂 He deserved it. Or so I thought at the time. Although he forgave me, we were never quite the same again. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Morgan Posted December 18, 2023 Author Share Posted December 18, 2023 4 hours ago, the posh bit said: 100%. Never forgive, never forget. Revenge is dish best served cold. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Morgan Posted December 18, 2023 Author Share Posted December 18, 2023 15 hours ago, Day@theraces said: Do please tell. I've noticed these folk mentioned in previous posts. Sorry, no. They are too personal. I’ll just say though, that one of them caused a fatality and one of them caused an unbelievable level of distress. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dusk_Till_Dawn Posted December 18, 2023 Share Posted December 18, 2023 The revenge aspect is not healthy. That’s easy to say but no good ever comes of trying to get even. There’s no one in my life I’m struggling to forgive, or even need to. Suppose I’m lucky in that sense Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dusk_Till_Dawn Posted December 18, 2023 Share Posted December 18, 2023 1 minute ago, Morgan said: Sorry, no. They are too personal. I’ll just say though, that one of them caused a fatality and one of them caused an unbelievable level of distress. Tbf, very hard to get past things like that. Feel for you Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Morgan Posted December 18, 2023 Author Share Posted December 18, 2023 Just now, Dusk_Till_Dawn said: Tbf, very hard to get past things like that. Feel for you Thank you very much, DTD, I appreciate that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlueRiver Posted December 18, 2023 Share Posted December 18, 2023 11 hours ago, martoon said: I've posted this opinion before but hatred only hurts the hater. The hated either don't know they're hated and those who do tend not to give a toss. Hate eats away at you; not they feckers. I know that from personal experience as hatred for an individual nearly drove me insane about a decade back. He's deid now, which has also helped. 🙃 Agreed. In effect you let them hurt you twice (or more) by clinging on to it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JimmyCant Posted December 18, 2023 Share Posted December 18, 2023 16 hours ago, Der Kaiser said: I'm like my Dad. Dont suffer fools gladly. If you severely piss me off....or my sons....we're done. Will drop you in a second and lose not a second of sleep. Probably only done it 3 times in my life but absolutely no regrets. Likewise. I’ve cut off 3 close family members in the last 10 years. Loads of chances given and allowances made but just got to the stage where having them in my life was toxic. I wish it was different but it’s too far gone, the door is closed and I’ve no real desire to try and open it. I don’t hate them and don’t seek or offer forgiveness or apology. I barely think about them now and I’m better for it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
martoon Posted December 18, 2023 Share Posted December 18, 2023 16 minutes ago, BlueRiver said: Agreed. In effect you let them hurt you twice (or more) by clinging on to it. Absolutely true, BR. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AlimOzturk Posted December 18, 2023 Share Posted December 18, 2023 I have often found that the best revenge is moving on with your life and becoming the best version of yourself that you can. People that have it out for you tend to hate it when you actually make a success of yourself. They want you to fail. Find people who want the best for you and celebrate your success rather than those who attempt to keep you down. Forget about getting revenge. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Morgan Posted December 18, 2023 Author Share Posted December 18, 2023 There are some pieces of advice on here that I agree with, others that I don't. That's what a forum is all about though - differing opinions. I remain bitter and vengeful with regard to the four people aforementioned. Three of them in particular. We are currently in a position where we can claim some revenge on one of them, and have already achieved a 'victory' in regard to another. The long-term one has no chance now of being dealt with and should therefore be (easier said than done) disregarded, but never forgotten. We'll see! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dusk_Till_Dawn Posted December 18, 2023 Share Posted December 18, 2023 17 minutes ago, Morgan said: There are some pieces of advice on here that I agree with, others that I don't. That's what a forum is all about though - differing opinions. I remain bitter and vengeful with regard to the four people aforementioned. Three of them in particular. We are currently in a position where we can claim some revenge on one of them, and have already achieved a 'victory' in regard to another. The long-term one has no chance now of being dealt with and should therefore be (easier said than done) disregarded, but never forgotten. We'll see! What would your preferred revenge be? Like, do you want to fill someone in or kill them? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Morgan Posted December 18, 2023 Author Share Posted December 18, 2023 2 minutes ago, Dusk_Till_Dawn said: What would your preferred revenge be? Like, do you want to fill someone in or kill them? Definitely no violence. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Der Kaiser Posted December 18, 2023 Share Posted December 18, 2023 25 minutes ago, Morgan said: Definitely no violence. Don't knock it unless you've tried it..... 😉 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thunder and Lightning Posted December 18, 2023 Share Posted December 18, 2023 2 hours ago, Morgan said: Sorry, no. They are too personal. I’ll just say though, that one of them caused a fatality and one of them caused an unbelievable level of distress. Absolute drama queen. You clearly wanted to be asked so you could post that. Should have just added it to your OP and saved everyone time. 😂 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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