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My wife and I celebrated sixty fantastic years of marriage March 12, she has been having a few problems recently,  and today she complained of feeling weak. She had a good afternoon nap and went through to he kitchen and I heard a bump. She had stumbled backwards and basically sat down hard.  At our age its not good and although uninjured I got an ambulance and had her taken to Emergency. Because of the Virus no visitors or companions allowed so you have to get on the phone and its hard to get through, but I did and they say she is good,  but still to see a doctor.

 

If anyone wonders why I am telling my story here  its because despite  all the time away the people on JKB those that I have enjoyed and those I have upset are all really my ain folk and I had to speak to somebody..

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My mum is 89 now and has the occasional stumble. Very much like you describe, I put it down to he refusing to accept she isn’t as nimble on her feet as she likes to think. She does have a problem with low blood pressure that makes her dizzy if she gets up too quick, not a problem though as long as she remembers. 

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I, and no doubt plenty of others, wish your wife all the best, Bob. 
 

Fingers crossed you receive some good news once she’s been checked over by a doctor. 
 

You are also absolutely right to speak your feelings, good man.

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John Findlay

Robeet(I bet only your mum called you that when she was cross with you),  Many congratulations on your Diamond anniversary. I hope your good lady recovers well and is home soon.

Chest out back straight chin up. Once a guardsman always a guardsman.

 

Good luck to you both Bob.

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You certainly did the the right thing Bob not taking any chances. Hopefully your wife is home soon after getting a checkover. 

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This not being allowed into hospital to see people is just brutal. 
I had a guy I know his wife had terminal cancer and nobody was allowed in since April when she started to get really ill. He demanded her home near the end as she got worse and she nearly passed in the ambulance they actually stopped on the road and got him into the back just in case before they got her home. She lasted until the morning but at least they got her home and they got to say their goodbyes even though she was mostly unresponsive. This virus is so shit for people in these situations. 
Another mate his mum fell down the stairs and broke her hip. She’s a wee bit forgetful now and was upset nobody was going into see her no matter how many times he phoned and stuff. 
Brutal man. 
Hope your mrs is ok Bob. 
 

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luckyBatistuta

Sorry to hear about Mrs Sharpe Bob. Hopefully she is on the mend and back home soon. Look forward to you telling us all about your Platinum anniversary celebrations. Stay safe Bob.

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1 hour ago, jack D and coke said:

This not being allowed into hospital to see people is just brutal. 
I had a guy I know his wife had terminal cancer and nobody was allowed in since April when she started to get really ill. He demanded her home near the end as she got worse and she nearly passed in the ambulance they actually stopped on the road and got him into the back just in case before they got her home. She lasted until the morning but at least they got her home and they got to say their goodbyes even though she was mostly unresponsive. This virus is so shit for people in these situations. 
Another mate his mum fell down the stairs and broke her hip. She’s a wee bit forgetful now and was upset nobody was going into see her no matter how many times he phoned and stuff. 
Brutal man. 
Hope your mrs is ok Bob. 
 

Yip. My old mum broke her hip in January and again in March this year. Havent seen her since the lockdown. Shes moving into a care home today and I 'm still no allowed to see her. She also caught Covid 19 in the Edinburgh Royal Infirmary. All clear now but the old bird just keeps going. 87 as well!

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9 hours ago, Sharpie said:

My wife and I celebrated sixty fantastic years of marriage March 12, she has been having a few problems recently,  and today she complained of feeling weak. She had a good afternoon nap and went through to he kitchen and I heard a bump. She had stumbled backwards and basically sat down hard.  At our age its not good and although uninjured I got an ambulance and had her taken to Emergency. Because of the Virus no visitors or companions allowed so you have to get on the phone and its hard to get through, but I did and they say she is good,  but still to see a doctor.

 

If anyone wonders why I am telling my story here  its because despite  all the time away the people on JKB those that I have enjoyed and those I have upset are all really my ain folk and I had to speak to somebody..

All the very best to you both Bob.

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6 minutes ago, Pans Jambo said:

Yip. My old mum broke her hip in January and again in March this year. Havent seen her since the lockdown. Shes moving into a care home today and I 'm still no allowed to see her. She also caught Covid 19 in the Edinburgh Royal Infirmary. All clear now but the old bird just keeps going. 87 as well!

Not saying it’s good she caught the Covid but great that she caught it and then recovered. 
Hope she’s all better man. 

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You keep the chin up Bob, and JKB will do its best for you I'm sure. 

 

Send our wishes to she who must be obeyed. 

 

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3fingersreid

Just make sure your house is Guards standard clean ,Guardsman Sharp or you’ll be in serious trouble when she comes home . Best wishes to you both . 

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Well she came home last night. They done tests and a registered nurse will be contacting us today, We were up at 3.00am I had to basically lift her out of bad and escort her to the bathroom, then the same on the way back.

I have been worried about her for about a month, it was sudden, but all the signs are Dementia, with the added physical weakness and no inability to walk without my help.

I am sorry to lay this on you guys,  I am not looking for any real help, but we are so alone I just need to ventilate, and realise the ******* I must be to justify such a punishment to the person who you love so much and has been so supportive of you. I won't be surprised if a rest home is recommended then if that happens under todays system I may never see her again. Thanks to you all.

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Best wishes to you and your wife, Bob.

 

Life does, indeed, deliver some cruel blows at times but you can only play the hand that you're dealt. Try to stay as positive as you can, for your wife's sake and for your own.  Everything else is out of your hands.

 

Keep smilin', my friend!  :thumb:

 

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30 minutes ago, Sharpie said:

Well she came home last night. They done tests and a registered nurse will be contacting us today, We were up at 3.00am I had to basically lift her out of bad and escort her to the bathroom, then the same on the way back.

I have been worried about her for about a month, it was sudden, but all the signs are Dementia, with the added physical weakness and no inability to walk without my help.

I am sorry to lay this on you guys,  I am not looking for any real help, but we are so alone I just need to ventilate, and realise the ******* I must be to justify such a punishment to the person who you love so much and has been so supportive of you. I won't be surprised if a rest home is recommended then if that happens under todays system I may never see her again. Thanks to you all.

Take care Bob. Hopefully you can find some reasonable solution to the issues you are both facing. 

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scott herbertson

Best of luck Bob 

 

Our 86 year old stepfather has an auto-immune problem and had to go into hospital  for a week and no visiting

 

On the upside he  learned how to use the mobile phone so he could continue to provide lifestyle advice from his hospital bed!

 

He's out and about again now, and hopefully your missus will be soon

 

Hope you laid in plenty of tins of beans and bread in the freezer!

 

 

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Vent away, Bob. Although this place may seem arseholey at times it's a remarkable community and many of us would be a lot poorer without it.

 

All the best to you and your Mrs.

 

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Best of luck to you both, Mr Sharp.

 

Keep on posting your wee stories and look after yourself, and your ‘wee girl’.

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5 hours ago, Maple Leaf said:

Best wishes to you and your wife, Bob.

 

Life does, indeed, deliver some cruel blows at times but you can only play the hand that you're dealt. Try to stay as positive as you can, for your wife's sake and for your own.  Everything else is out of your hands.

 

Keep smilin', my friend!  :thumb:

 

Well said 👍

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Carl Fredrickson

Hope all goes well Bob. 

 

Over the years your posts have made me laugh, think (seriously) and cry. You share your thoughts and experiences in an open way and I am glad that you share so much. 

 

 

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16 hours ago, Sharpie said:

My wife and I celebrated sixty fantastic years of marriage March 12, she has been having a few problems recently,  and today she complained of feeling weak. She had a good afternoon nap and went through to he kitchen and I heard a bump. She had stumbled backwards and basically sat down hard.  At our age its not good and although uninjured I got an ambulance and had her taken to Emergency. Because of the Virus no visitors or companions allowed so you have to get on the phone and its hard to get through, but I did and they say she is good,  but still to see a doctor.

 

If anyone wonders why I am telling my story here  its because despite  all the time away the people on JKB those that I have enjoyed and those I have upset are all really my ain folk and I had to speak to somebody..

Glad you did .

Was thinking deeply there Bob.

It's a shock when someone you are entwined with suffer.

It's good to express that and it's good that we all remember our feelings.

I've had my own troubles of late and it's good to see a man of your character be able to post that.

 

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Auld Reekin'

Best wishes to you both and hope the missus gets a clean bill of health.

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SectionDJambo

Bob,

You and your wife have clearly been very lucky to have met each other, back in the day, and shown such love and commitment to each other over those 60 years. Many would envy what you have.

My best wishes to you and your wife, for a happy outcome to a worrying situation for you both. 

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Best wishes to your wife and you, hope everything gets back to normal.

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Aww Bob.

 

I’m glad your better half is home now as having a loved one in hospital during these times, makes a difficult situation even worse.

 
Vent away Bob. The JKB community is brilliant at coming together and listening.

 

Best wishes to your wife and yourself 

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Best wishes Bob, to you and Mrs S.

You have earned a reputation as a thoughtful, interesting and valued contributor on here over the years. You've put plenty in the bank of goodwill on JKB, you are very welcome to draw on that credit.

All the best from West Lothian

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9 hours ago, Sharpie said:

Well she came home last night. They done tests and a registered nurse will be contacting us today, We were up at 3.00am I had to basically lift her out of bad and escort her to the bathroom, then the same on the way back.

I have been worried about her for about a month, it was sudden, but all the signs are Dementia, with the added physical weakness and no inability to walk without my help.

I am sorry to lay this on you guys,  I am not looking for any real help, but we are so alone I just need to ventilate, and realise the ******* I must be to justify such a punishment to the person who you love so much and has been so supportive of you. I won't be surprised if a rest home is recommended then if that happens under todays system I may never see her again. Thanks to you all.

 

We sometimes go down Bob, but we aye get back up again. 

 

You need a chat, plenty here for you pal. 

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12 hours ago, Sharpie said:

Well she came home last night. They done tests and a registered nurse will be contacting us today, We were up at 3.00am I had to basically lift her out of bad and escort her to the bathroom, then the same on the way back.

I have been worried about her for about a month, it was sudden, but all the signs are Dementia, with the added physical weakness and no inability to walk without my help.

I am sorry to lay this on you guys,  I am not looking for any real help, but we are so alone I just need to ventilate, and realise the ******* I must be to justify such a punishment to the person who you love so much and has been so supportive of you. I won't be surprised if a rest home is recommended then if that happens under todays system I may never see her again. Thanks to you all.

 

Please, Bob, you're laying nothing on anyone, it has to be a worrying time for you and the mrs. I only hope posting on here may have helped ease some of the strain you must be under.

I wish everything positive for you both, along with my best wishes.

 

P.S. Monica also said to include her in this.

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Every best wish to both of you, Bob.  As Ron says and as you sadly know, life does indeed deliver cruel blows.  It's hard to say what use a message board is at a time like this, but you know that this mob will do their best if you need a chat.

 

Tabhair aire duit féin.

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46 minutes ago, J.T.F.Robertson said:

 

Please, Bob, you're laying nothing on anyone, it has to be a worrying time for you and the mrs. I only hope posting on here may have helped ease some of the strain you must be under.

I wish everything positive for you both, along with my best wishes.

 

P.S. Monica also said to include her in this.

 Thanks Jim its just awful. We had a visit from a nurse that the hospital sends. Esther was great she told her about how we met it was nice, then she made supper she does something then forgets she had the meal cooked and went on to do something else so the meal was stone cold when we got it. Then we washed the dishes and cleaned up and she missed half the dishes so I finished them. Don't get me wrong I am not making her work, she gets really angry if I say I'll do it for her. So I go along and suffer the pain of watchings someone who sacrificed so much and worked so hard for me. When my mother died in 1979 I went over there to be with her her last days in hospital. When she passed I asked my Dad what he was going to do and he said he would be fine. I told him if he ever had a problem just let me know, and a few months later he said he couldn't handle it. I went to Canadian immigration got him arranged and he came to us in December 1979..On 1 January1980 I left for my three months at The FBI Academy, Esther looked after my Dad, and when he took ill she got everything arranged for him in hospital and done everything for him, she never mentioned it to me so I could finish the course. She nursed me through colon cancer, surgery, chemo, radiation. She nursed me through a hip replacement, and not long ago a TIA. Her problem though does not allow her to let you help, the confusion blocks all thought. She leaves burners on on the stove, but she is my girl, she and I supported each other when we lost our daughter, the nurse figures at the moment with some help from her department for a while but a nursing home is in the future. So sad.

I have to say the response from all the guys on here is heart warming, it helps to know you are not really alone, and I thank everyone for that. The luckiest day of my life when Bill Duff Jr recommended JKB around 2000 or so.

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58 minutes ago, Sharpie said:

 Thanks Jim its just awful. We had a visit from a nurse that the hospital sends. Esther was great she told her about how we met it was nice, then she made supper she does something then forgets she had the meal cooked and went on to do something else so the meal was stone cold when we got it. Then we washed the dishes and cleaned up and she missed half the dishes so I finished them. Don't get me wrong I am not making her work, she gets really angry if I say I'll do it for her. So I go along and suffer the pain of watchings someone who sacrificed so much and worked so hard for me. When my mother died in 1979 I went over there to be with her her last days in hospital. When she passed I asked my Dad what he was going to do and he said he would be fine. I told him if he ever had a problem just let me know, and a few months later he said he couldn't handle it. I went to Canadian immigration got him arranged and he came to us in December 1979..On 1 January1980 I left for my three months at The FBI Academy, Esther looked after my Dad, and when he took ill she got everything arranged for him in hospital and done everything for him, she never mentioned it to me so I could finish the course. She nursed me through colon cancer, surgery, chemo, radiation. She nursed me through a hip replacement, and not long ago a TIA. Her problem though does not allow her to let you help, the confusion blocks all thought. She leaves burners on on the stove, but she is my girl, she and I supported each other when we lost our daughter, the nurse figures at the moment with some help from her department for a while but a nursing home is in the future. So sad.

I have to say the response from all the guys on here is heart warming, it helps to know you are not really alone, and I thank everyone for that. The luckiest day of my life when Bill Duff Jr recommended JKB around 2000 or so.

 

Hi, Bob.

I tried to PM you but it seems you're not "eligible". If there's anything we can do ...... 

 

 

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7 minutes ago, J.T.F.Robertson said:

 

Hi, Bob.

I tried to PM you but it seems you're not "eligible". If there's anything we can do ...... 

 

 

 I'm fine, theres nothing much anyone can do even the medical people. When you combine age, an act of nature and the inevitability of them taking their price for the kind of fantastic life of challenge, success, travel, people we have met, you can do what you like to beat it but you know you will lose in the end, that is what makes it so sad for me, we have always known and discussed that something we never really knew what could happen just like it is, the sadness is that you see the destruction of a once beautiful loving person who is becoming something less. You can only try to ease the  mental pain they must be  suffering in their own small world.

 

I had problems when I was due tried to pay and it didn't go through, and I was having problems at the time and thought I was being scammed so I just left it at the time and never got back to it when the problems started.

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On 24/06/2020 at 13:20, Sharpie said:

Well she came home last night. They done tests and a registered nurse will be contacting us today, We were up at 3.00am I had to basically lift her out of bad and escort her to the bathroom, then the same on the way back.

I have been worried about her for about a month, it was sudden, but all the signs are Dementia, with the added physical weakness and no inability to walk without my help.

I am sorry to lay this on you guys,  I am not looking for any real help, but we are so alone I just need to ventilate, and realise the ******* I must be to justify such a punishment to the person who you love so much and has been so supportive of you. I won't be surprised if a rest home is recommended then if that happens under todays system I may never see her again. Thanks to you all.

I'm sure if Lady Sharp were to read that , she'd give you a well-deserved clip around the ear. You've been as strong for her as she's been for you in different ways; it's not down to you at all or anything you've done. Man, you've survived 60 years together with ups and downs along the way; that wouldn't have happened if you hadn't been as good for her as she is for you.

 

Your character has shone through your posts on JKB as long as I've been a member and there is a good reason that you are so admired and well thought of. Stay strong and hope you get through this sh177y situation as well as possible.

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13 hours ago, Sharpie said:

 Thanks Jim its just awful. We had a visit from a nurse that the hospital sends. Esther was great she told her about how we met it was nice, then she made supper she does something then forgets she had the meal cooked and went on to do something else so the meal was stone cold when we got it. Then we washed the dishes and cleaned up and she missed half the dishes so I finished them. Don't get me wrong I am not making her work, she gets really angry if I say I'll do it for her. So I go along and suffer the pain of watchings someone who sacrificed so much and worked so hard for me. When my mother died in 1979 I went over there to be with her her last days in hospital. When she passed I asked my Dad what he was going to do and he said he would be fine. I told him if he ever had a problem just let me know, and a few months later he said he couldn't handle it. I went to Canadian immigration got him arranged and he came to us in December 1979..On 1 January1980 I left for my three months at The FBI Academy, Esther looked after my Dad, and when he took ill she got everything arranged for him in hospital and done everything for him, she never mentioned it to me so I could finish the course. She nursed me through colon cancer, surgery, chemo, radiation. She nursed me through a hip replacement, and not long ago a TIA. Her problem though does not allow her to let you help, the confusion blocks all thought. She leaves burners on on the stove, but she is my girl, she and I supported each other when we lost our daughter, the nurse figures at the moment with some help from her department for a while but a nursing home is in the future. So sad.

I have to say the response from all the guys on here is heart warming, it helps to know you are not really alone, and I thank everyone for that. The luckiest day of my life when Bill Duff Jr recommended JKB around 2000 or so.

 

Oh Bob. So sorry to read this. As already stated, JKB is full of good people for you to talk to. You have had a number of hurdles to overcome, have managed it magnificently and I know you will deal with whatever lies ahead.

 

I wish you and your beloved wife all the very best. 

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On 24/06/2020 at 14:20, Sharpie said:

Well she came home last night. They done tests and a registered nurse will be contacting us today, We were up at 3.00am I had to basically lift her out of bad and escort her to the bathroom, then the same on the way back.

I have been worried about her for about a month, it was sudden, but all the signs are Dementia, with the added physical weakness and no inability to walk without my help.

I am sorry to lay this on you guys,  I am not looking for any real help, but we are so alone I just need to ventilate, and realise the ******* I must be to justify such a punishment to the person who you love so much and has been so supportive of you. I won't be surprised if a rest home is recommended then if that happens under todays system I may never see her again. Thanks to you all.

Your post, Bob, is so, so sad.

 

In amongst all the words you’ve used, the bit that gave me a lump in my throat was ‘I may never see her again’. 

 

I can’t even begin to imagine having to type, or say that, with regard to my own dear wife.

 

Please Bob, look after yourself and the ‘love of your life’ in equal measure.

 

Keep us informed, keep well (for you both) and keep your chin up.

 

JKB is a good place, use it, Bob.

 

Morgan

 

 

 

 

 

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1 hour ago, Morgan said:

Your post, Bob, is so, so sad.

 

In amongst all the words you’ve used, the bit that gave me a lump in my throat was ‘I may never see her again’. 

 

I can’t even begin to imagine having to type, or say that, with regard to my own dear wife.

 

Please Bob, look after yourself and the ‘love of your life’ in equal measure.

 

Keep us informed, keep well (for you both) and keep your chin up.

 

JKB is a good place, use it, Bob.

 

Morgan

 

 

 

 

 

 

Thats very nice words from you Morgan, I feel bad hitting the group with all these depressing messages, but to be honest I have some hope that it may help someone else way in the future. In all the illnesses mental and physical I have dealt with this is all new to me. The problem I am having the medics tell me is anticipatory anxiety, an example of which you quote in your post. The problem is the unknown, all the tests are in there are some concerning ones apparently but which are treatable, and nothing to do with memory or confusion, but are strictly medical. Again thanks Morgan and all the wonderful guys on here who are so supportive.  Support is the true word because support of the old Hearts is what we share, and what I was weaned on.

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9 minutes ago, Sharpie said:

 

Thats very nice words from you Morgan, I feel bad hitting the group with all these depressing messages, but to be honest I have some hope that it may help someone else way in the future. In all the illnesses mental and physical I have dealt with this is all new to me. The problem I am having the medics tell me is anticipatory anxiety, an example of which you quote in your post. The problem is the unknown, all the tests are in there are some concerning ones apparently but which are treatable, and nothing to do with memory or confusion, but are strictly medical. Again thanks Morgan and all the wonderful guys on here who are so supportive.  Support is the true word because support of the old Hearts is what we share, and what I was weaned on.

No problem, Bob.

 

It’s support in it’s truest sense, no falseness, no mucking about, just genuine care and concern from a great website, a great team, some really good folk.

 

God be with you both, Sharps!

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On 25/06/2020 at 03:06, J.T.F.Robertson said:

 

Hi, Bob.

I tried to PM you but it seems you're not "eligible". If there's anything we can do ...... 

 

 

@J.T.F.Robertson bob’s PMs should be fine now. 

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5 hours ago, davemclaren said:

@Sharpie I’ve set you up as an honorary paid member so your PMs should be working again. 
 

 

 

That's awesome. 

 

We don't know each other from Adam, Bob @Sharpiebut I send you nothing but best wishes for you and your wife. 

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