il Duce McTarkin Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 (edited) 3 hours ago, jack D and coke said: Girls can have male pals but you try telling your bursd or Mrs you’re texting “your pal” who happens to be a lassie and see what she reckons My Mrs used to get all bent out of shape whenever I was out and about or on the message to bursd pals. She'd been a bit of a player hersef and trust was never something she'd had much of a mind for, either in herself or others. I put it to her straight that who I was friends with wasn't going to change on account of her, and she could either trust me and like it, or take the huff and lump it. To be fair to her, she came around eventually and calmed the **** down. Had to lay the marker right from the off. Edited April 29 by il Duce McTarkin Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
il Duce McTarkin Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 2 hours ago, Tazio said: More like carpet burns. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trotter Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 (edited) Some absolute holocaust posts on this thread 😅😅 Rising to the top of this particular Shed cesspile is that a guy 'needs a slap' for having the audacity to be mates with a girl. Your mates son comes across as a walloper for immediately thinking something is going on, your mate comes across as a walloper for getting involved in his walloper son's relationship and telling you about it, and you come across as a walloper for even trying to be involved in it. EDIT: had to shorten the above, meeting a lassie I work with for a couple after work Edited April 29 by trotter Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
il Duce McTarkin Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 47 minutes ago, trotter said: EDIT: had to shorten the above, meeting a lassie I work with for a couple after work Couple of what, bud? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pap Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 10 hours ago, Morgan said: Sort what? What should ‘follow’? Violence is the vice, and tool, of the weak-minded. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JimmyCant Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 (edited) This thread has classic potential. If my wife has a male work pal (and mine has a couple) going out alone with him crosses the line. Going out in a group and having a laugh and the odd low level message is fine by me. Both my wife’s work pals are gay (so she tells me) but even then, a one to one night out would be a no no. She works in a male dominated environment notorious for predatory beasts and she’s a looker (I’m punching well above my weight) but I trust her 100% and she’s not a great one for out of work socialising. I generally know where she is and who she’s with if she’s not with me or family. Not because I track her movements, she’s just a creature of habit and I’d notice right away if there was a major behavioural change.Spending one to one time with another man is a huge red flag for me. If ever she crosses the line and I’m not good enough anymore we’ll shake hands, she’ll move out (or I will, whichever works best) and we’ll move on. No one is getting a slap and I’d manage life on my own perfectly well without someone I couldn’t trust anyway. Edited April 29 by JimmyCant Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Der Kaiser Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 Hey Mods. Can you really justify all of this for just a £5? You do not get golden content like this anywhere else for only a £5. Feels like I'm stealing tbh Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Generic Username Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 I trust my wife as long as she's out with at least two men who are gay. Beautiful. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CostaJambo Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 1 hour ago, Der Kaiser said: Hey Mods. Can you really justify all of this for just a £5? You do not get golden content like this anywhere else for only a £5. Feels like I'm stealing tbh Early candidate for post of the year IMO. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
I P Knightley Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 OP sounds like a story from Rank Hovis back in the day. Back to work, Doug! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ray Gin Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 Wait, there are adults on here who don't have any pals of the opposite sex who they don't want to shag? Do you only ever meet absolute stunners who are a great match for you or do you just refuse to speak to any woman you aren't attracted to? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
I P Knightley Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 14 hours ago, ToadKiller Dog said: Most likely it's nothing beyond work based friendship. He needs to be told to think calmly ,jealousy and insecurities of your partner might not just destroy this relationship but him ever having a good relationship. If he goes threatening the guy to stay away and she finds out he will be definatly be dumped . The words "dumped" and "pumped" shouldn't look so similar. Too much confusion at a glance. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudyJudyJudy Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 It’s 2024 !!! The lad must have trust issues or has control issues . If she gets rid of the male friend it’s a downward spirral for her . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bull's-eye Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 If it moves get it pumpd. Only way to learn imo. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudyJudyJudy Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 I’m friends with a few lassies and it’s all above board . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jeff Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 1 minute ago, JudyJudyJudy said: I’m friends with a few lassies and it’s all above board . Not what I've heard, you big shagger Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudyJudyJudy Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 7 minutes ago, Jeff said: Not what I've heard, you big shagger Stop it that’s his how rumours start . I’ll be the biggest hoor master on this soon . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iantjambo Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 Sounds like mates laddie needs to grow up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudyJudyJudy Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 Actually reminds me of a time when me and gay friend did the doo one night after being very drunk . He woke up next morning and was all lovey dovey and asked “ what does this mean ? I answered “ it means we were drunk “ !!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carter Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 17 hours ago, Der Kaiser said: He should lick her face in front of this new lad to assert dominance. He has to maintain eye contact with him while he does it. That's a very important bit. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dunks Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 Good grief. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AyrJambo Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 39 minutes ago, JudyJudyJudy said: Actually reminds me of a time when me and gay friend did the doo one night after being very drunk . He woke up next morning and was all lovey dovey and asked “ what does this mean ? I answered “ it means we were drunk “ !!! You're such a romantic Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trotter Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 11 hours ago, il Duce McTarkin said: Couple of what, bud? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trotter Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 5 hours ago, JimmyCant said: This thread has classic potential. If my wife has a male work pal (and mine has a couple) going out alone with him crosses the line. Going out in a group and having a laugh and the odd low level message is fine by me. Both my wife’s work pals are gay (so she tells me) but even then, a one to one night out would be a no no. She works in a male dominated environment notorious for predatory beasts and she’s a looker (I’m punching well above my weight) but I trust her 100% and she’s not a great one for out of work socialising. I generally know where she is and who she’s with if she’s not with me or family. Not because I track her movements, she’s just a creature of habit and I’d notice right away if there was a major behavioural change.Spending one to one time with another man is a huge red flag for me. If ever she crosses the line and I’m not good enough anymore we’ll shake hands, she’ll move out (or I will, whichever works best) and we’ll move on. No one is getting a slap and I’d manage life on my own perfectly well without someone I couldn’t trust anyway. Doesn't your first point completely negate the second? As in you trust her, but only under your terms? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JimmyCant Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 1 minute ago, trotter said: Doesn't your first point completely negate the second? As in you trust her, but only under your terms? How else do you trust except in your own terms with your own boundaries. For me that’s a boundary I trust her not to cross. It’s not a control thing, it’s not even a trust thing really. It’s just mutual respect. I wouldn’t do it, she wouldn’t do it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fabienleclerq Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 4 hours ago, Generic Username said: I trust my wife as long as she's out with at least two men who are gay. Beautiful. 😂😂😂 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudyJudyJudy Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 21 minutes ago, AyrJambo said: You're such a romantic I had to be very clear ! 😂 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lou Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 3 minutes ago, JimmyCant said: How else do you trust except in your own terms with your own boundaries. For me that’s a boundary I trust her not to cross. It’s not a control thing, it’s not even a trust thing really. It’s just mutual respect. I wouldn’t do it, she wouldn’t do it. I have a male friend who happens to be gay, if my husband had an issue with me going out to catch up with him, I would polite tell him where to go. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RustyRightPeg Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 This could be an all timer. How old is the laddie? And the lassie, and the other laddie? Tell the laddie not to worry about the other laddie. If the lassie like the laddie then she'll not go near the other laddie. If she likes the laddie then she'll get rid of the other laddie and then the laddie will have the lassie all to himself. If she starts to muck the laddie about, then the other laddie will still be hovering about and he might think he's got a chance. Stop it at source I say. Get rid of the lassie and find another lassie. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Der Kaiser Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 Just now, RustyRightPeg said: This could be an all timer. How old is the laddie? And the lassie, and the other laddie? Tell the laddie not to worry about the other laddie. If the lassie like the laddie then she'll not go near the other laddie. If she likes the laddie then she'll get rid of the other laddie and then the laddie will have the lassie all to himself. If she starts to muck the laddie about, then the other laddie will still be hovering about and he might think he's got a chance. Stop it at source I say. Get rid of the lassie and find another lassie. Who is the baddie in all this? Is it the laddie with the lassie who has a friend at work who is a laddie? Is it the laddie's lassie with a new friend who is a laddie. Or is it the laddie who wants to be friends with a lassie who has a laddie? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JimmyCant Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 3 minutes ago, lou said: I have a male friend who happens to be gay, if my husband had an issue with me going out to catch up with him, I would polite tell him where to go. Well we all have lines we draw. It’s never come up as an option. Depends on the context I suppose but ordinarily she wouldn’t do it. We’ve never had to tell each other ‘where to go’ I suppose we’re lucky in that regard Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lou Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 5 minutes ago, JimmyCant said: Well we all have lines we draw. It’s never come up as an option. Depends on the context I suppose but ordinarily she wouldn’t do it. We’ve never had to tell each other ‘where to go’ I suppose we’re lucky in that regard Us too luckily, mostly because we are comfortable enough to let the other see their friends and not have to worry that anything would happen. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AyrJambo Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 (edited) 18 minutes ago, RustyRightPeg said: This could be an all timer. How old is the laddie? And the lassie, and the other laddie? Tell the laddie not to worry about the other laddie. If the lassie like the laddie then she'll not go near the other laddie. If she likes the laddie then she'll get rid of the other laddie and then the laddie will have the lassie all to himself. If she starts to muck the laddie about, then the other laddie will still be hovering about and he might think he's got a chance. Stop it at source I say. Get rid of the lassie and find another lassie. 😄😄😄 13 minutes ago, Der Kaiser said: Who is the baddie in all this? Is it the laddie with the lassie who has a friend at work who is a laddie? Is it the laddie's lassie with a new friend who is a laddie. Or is it the laddie who wants to be friends with a lassie who has a laddie? 😄😄😄 Is the lassie friends with any other lassies at the laddie's work? Edited April 29 by AyrJambo addition Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jack D and coke Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 9 minutes ago, lou said: Us too luckily, mostly because we are comfortable enough to let the other see their friends and not have to worry that anything would happen. You’d be happy for your husband to spend time alone with another woman? Add in alcohol and you don’t think anything could possibly happen? I wouldn’t trust myself I’ll be honest here so I don’t put myself in situations where I might be tempted. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
I P Knightley Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 25 minutes ago, Der Kaiser said: Who is the baddie in all this? Is it the laddie with the lassie who has a friend at work who is a laddie? Is it the laddie's lassie with a new friend who is a laddie. Or is it the laddie who wants to be friends with a lassie who has a laddie? More than likely the laddie's the baddie but the laddie's daddy shouldn't have a paddy about the laddie worrying about the laddie. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Generic Username Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 I'm sorry Margaret I can't go for drinks after work I'm afraid. Once I've had a pint my penis keeps mysteriously falling out of my pants and landing in strangers vaginas. I hope you understand. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lou Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 22 minutes ago, jack D and coke said: You’d be happy for your husband to spend time alone with another woman? Add in alcohol and you don’t think anything could possibly happen? I wouldn’t trust myself I’ll be honest here so I don’t put myself in situations where I might be tempted. If my husband had a long term platonic friendship with the woman, then yes, you can't dictate where and when your partners meet their friends. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carter Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 2 hours ago, Bull's-eye said: If it moves get it pumpd. Only way to learn imo. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Morgan Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 2 hours ago, JudyJudyJudy said: I’m friends with a few lassies and it’s all above board . Well, it feckin would be. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PaddysBar Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 Great thread😂 If anyone’s interested I’ve got a female pal I’ve known for 40 years (and she’s not called Pam). Biffed her once mind. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
B4 Part B Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 20 hours ago, Ked said: Mates laddie is going out with a lassie for 3 years. Nice couple just tell they're good. However . Lassie has a new pal . Met at work. Mates laddie is wound up. What advice do you give my mates laddie? And can you ever really be mates with a lassie? The new pal is a laddie . Have you considered bees? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
been here before Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 1 hour ago, RustyRightPeg said: This could be an all timer. Could be, but it wont. As ever itll become all about James who'll take the thread over before battering it rigid with Mollie Sugden, Charles Hawtree and Marlon Brando gifs, he's started already. Talking of battering things rigid leads us nicely back to the OP... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
been here before Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 18 hours ago, Morgan said: Sort what? What should ‘follow’? Violence is the vice, and tool, of the weak-minded. Its really not as Carling demonstrates so ably. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
been here before Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 17 hours ago, Herbert. said: Your mates laddie sounds like a wee prick. Hope the boy at work rattles the life out the lassie and your wee wank of a pal has to settle for sloppy seconds. An excellent summation of the facts as laid out before us. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marvin Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 19 hours ago, rudi must stay said: Some men don't need anyone, just like me. I could ofcourse find a partner but I'm not looking. It's a very sensible decision these days women expect to much Agreed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
il Duce McTarkin Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 2 hours ago, JimmyCant said: How else do you trust except in your own terms with your own boundaries. For me that’s a boundary I trust her not to cross. It’s not a control thing, it’s not even a trust thing really. It’s just mutual respect. I wouldn’t do it, she wouldn’t do it. It is a control thing. You're using 'mutual respect' as a cover for your insecurities. You're placing limits each other's freedoms, which is fine if you're both onboard with it, but lets call a spade a spade. 2 hours ago, lou said: I have a male friend who happens to be gay, if my husband had an issue with me going out to catch up with him, I would polite tell him where to go. Good stuff. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EH11_2NL Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 20 hours ago, Der Kaiser said: He should lick her face in front of this new lad to assert dominance. He has to maintain eye contact with him while he does it. That's a very important bit. 😄 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jack D and coke Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 1 hour ago, lou said: If my husband had a long term platonic friendship with the woman, then yes, you can't dictate where and when your partners meet their friends. No you can’t but in the main most people (male meeting female) originally meet through attraction. It’s kind of what gets you talking in most cases. Every chance they’d already have banged. Im not suggesting you’re wrong but I wouldn’t trust myself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fabienleclerq Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 2 hours ago, lou said: I have a male friend who happens to be gay, if my husband had an issue with me going out to catch up with him, I would polite tell him where to go. I don't think this is the same scenario tbh. That's like you being ok your husband had a straight male friend. I'm with JD and coke on this one tbh, I'd not be putting myself in that situation nor expect my Mrs too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dawnrazor Posted April 29 Share Posted April 29 Does the Laddie not just take Lassie for a walk? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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