''Why men should pay on 1st dates''

[IronJambo]

36 minutes ago, Bridge of Djoum said:

I don't think it was ''rapey'' at all. What an odd comment. He wasn't kidding as his follow up comment proves. Bizarre behavior to lambaste the individual who points out cringey comments rather than the person who made the comment.

 

Edit. Not sure I used the word ''comment'' enough on my post!

It wasn't a cringey comment though and nobody would've paid it the slightest bit of attention if you hadn't made such a big deal of it.

I think he was kidding, and it's in line with his online persona. If he wasn't kidding and genuinely believes he's got a better chance of getting laid by paying for dinner then good luck to the lad. Some women will sell themselves for less. All is fair in love and war.

[Bridge of Djoum]

2 minutes ago, IronJambo said:

It wasn't a cringey comment though and nobody would've paid it the slightest bit of attention if you hadn't made such a big deal of it.

I think he was kidding, and it's in line with his online persona. If he wasn't kidding and genuinely believes he's got a better chance of getting laid by paying for dinner then good luck to the lad. Some women will sell themselves for less. All is fair in love and war.

Our opinions differ on the matter. No big deal.

[IronJambo]

5 minutes ago, Bridge of Djoum said:

Our opinions differ on the matter. No big deal.

Don't worry lad, there's nothing wrong with being really sensitive. The women you don't buy dinner for will probably appreciate it.

[Herbert.]

3 hours ago, Bridge of Djoum said:

His posting history suggested otherwise.

 

 

 

Please tell me what I've said in the past that is rapey keeping it in context?

 

I made a throw away comment that was a joke and the 2nd post well there's a element of truth in that isn't there? Unless your saying guys don't go out with women on dates to get their end away.infact the online dating thread that was about a while back was full of such comments and posters saying what they were up to. Did you attack them aswell? My advice is put me on ignore. I don't go out to offend anyone just have a bit of a laugh and you obviously don't have the same humour as me. Apologies for offending you in some way.

[Phil Dunphy]

Men should pay, because they're the enemy.

[The Mighty Thor]

I haven't first dated for many years but given the current socio-political climate, would I **** offer to pay for dinner. 

 

I'll still open a door or give up a seat for my peers as i was brought up to do but other than that everyone else can go whistle. 

[Tazio]

I'd expect to go dutch as I'm a fairly modern person as are most of the women I socialise with or meet. However I suppose it all comes down to the initial invitation. 

 

"Would you like to go for dinner sometime?" or "could I take you out for dinner sometime?"

 

Option 2 is clearly saying you will pay.

[@VladMagic]

If a bursd is prepared to jump into the sack with you after one date, she probably isn't GF material anyway? Can you imagine how much todge she's had?

 

Back to the OP.

 

My Mrs bought me lunch on our first date. I tried to at least go halves with her but she insisted. I don't have a problem with that. We agreed there and then that we would take it in turns to pay and that is exactly what we do. I do get the occasional funny look from staff when the bring the bill over and she sorts it but who cares? We know we take it in turns and its stood us fine. Bigger things like holidays and weekends away we discuss before we book who will pay for what. Just a bit of common sense so everyone know where they stand.

[Салатные палочки]

I would never go for a meal on a first date so it would be drinks only and after a few drinks I'm spending "like a man wae nae hands" as my mum would say.  So I'm more likely to pay for the majority of rounds anyway.  Tend to find in the past that most of them are more than happy to put their hands in their pockets though, unless they are an entitled bitch. Second date I would usually suggest a meal and I would pay if I really liked her.  

[luckyBatistuta]

14 hours ago, Herbert said:

 

Please tell me what I've said in the past that is rapey keeping it in context?

 

I made a throw away comment that was a joke and the 2nd post well there's a element of truth in that isn't there? Unless your saying guys don't go out with women on dates to get their end away.infact the online dating thread that was about a while back was full of such comments and posters saying what they were up to. Did you attack them aswell? My advice is put me on ignore. I don't go out to offend anyone just have a bit of a laugh and you obviously don't have the same humour as me. Apologies for offending you in some way.

 

Just read the thread back and I read it as a joke too mate, don’t know why you are apologising for something that wasn’t there.

[Samuel Camazzola]

2 minutes ago, Salad Fingers said:

I would never go for a meal on a first date so it would be drinks only and after a few drinks I'm spending "like a man wae nae hands" as my mum would say.  So I'm more likely to pay for the majority of rounds anyway.  Tend to find in the past that most of them are more than happy to put their hands in their pockets though, unless they are an entitled bitch. Second date I would usually suggest a meal and I would pay if I really liked her.  

Would you buy the ingredients for her to make the steak pie? ?

[Салатные палочки]

Just now, Samuel Camazzola said:

Would you buy the ingredients for her to make the steak pie? ?

 

You can't buy that type of meat in a butchers! 

[Samuel Camazzola]

2 minutes ago, Salad Fingers said:

 

You can't buy that type of meat in a butchers! 

[fabienleclerq]

15 hours ago, IronJambo said:

Don't worry lad, there's nothing wrong with being really sensitive. The women you don't buy dinner for will probably appreciate it.

 

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[fabienleclerq]

15 hours ago, Herbert said:

 

Please tell me what I've said in the past that is rapey keeping it in context?

 

I made a throw away comment that was a joke and the 2nd post well there's a element of truth in that isn't there? Unless your saying guys don't go out with women on dates to get their end away.infact the online dating thread that was about a while back was full of such comments and posters saying what they were up to. Did you attack them aswell? My advice is put me on ignore. I don't go out to offend anyone just have a bit of a laugh and you obviously don't have the same humour as me. Apologies for offending you in some way.

 

Don't apologize, it was clearly a joke. Leave him to his sandy vagina.

[Ron Burgundy]

2 hours ago, fabienleclerq said:

 

Don't apologize, it was clearly a joke. Leave him to his sandy vagina.

[Governor Tarkin]

4 hours ago, VladMagic said:

If a bursd is prepared to jump into the sack with you after one date, she probably isn't GF material anyway? Can you imagine how much todge she's had?

 

 

If a bursd is prepared to jump into the sack with you after one date she probably just likes sex as much as you do.

 

If worrying about how much todge a bursd has had bakes your noodle then you'd be better off without a bursd.

 

There'll be all kinds of todge that you'll never live up to and she's never going to to tell you about.

[redjambo]

12 minutes ago, Governor Tarkin said:

 

If a bursd is prepared to jump into the sack with you after one date she probably just likes sex as much as you do.

 

 

Well said, Governor.

[Morgan]

This thread.   

 

Uneccesary apologies.

 

Steak pie.

 

Todge

 

Sandy vaginas.

 

Something for everyone right here.

[doctor jambo]

You might as well pay for everything on the first date.

Lets face it, if you're going to get married you'll be paying for everything indefinitely from then on, so you better get used to it

[Herbert.]

4 hours ago, luckyBatistuta said:

 

Just read the thread back and I read it as a joke too mate, don’t know why you are apologising for something that wasn’t there.

 

 

Nah I offended him and it takes and as a man I feel i should hold my hands up. I will even take the guy out for a nice meal and a few drinks,my treat IF he wants. 

[Herbert.]

2 minutes ago, doctor jambo said:

You might as well pay for everything on the first date.

Lets face it, if you're going to get married you'll be paying for everything indefinitely from then on, so you better get used to it

 

The love of a beautiful woman isn't cheap. Your better with a ugly one that doesn't buy make up and expensive clothes.

 

 

[doctor jambo]

7 minutes ago, Herbert said:

 

The love of a beautiful woman isn't cheap. Your better with a ugly one that doesn't buy make up and expensive clothes.

 

 

The new laws on coercive and controlling behaviour would have  the ovarian half of the population locked up in perpetuity

[luckyBatistuta]

29 minutes ago, Herbert said:

 

 

Nah I offended him and it takes and as a man I feel i should hold my hands up. I will even take the guy out for a nice meal and a few drinks,my treat IF he wants. 

 

Hope you will be a total gentleman 

[Ron Burgundy]

1 hour ago, Herbert said:

 

 

Nah I offended him and it takes and as a man I feel i should hold my hands up. I will even take the guy out for a nice meal and a few drinks,my treat IF he wants. 

You'd deffo get a ride I reckon.

[SE16 3LN]

People still go on dates?

[The Brow]

Just go out with a successful bird. 

 

You boys are aiming low. 

[Morgan]

2 hours ago, Ron Burgundy said:

You'd deffo get a ride I reckon.

That all you guys think about?

 

 

[ellie0028]

My daughter was asked on a date recently because the guy had got a groupon deal....

 

she he ended up refunding him for the deal, then paid for everything else that night...

 

I asked her why didn’t they just got Dutch and she said it’s was because she was being polite and expect him to say “ no we will go halfers” 

 

I don’t know what’s worse getting a groupon date or paying for it all ?

 

we we now refer to him as Mr Groupon 

[Herbert.]

3 hours ago, luckyBatistuta said:

 

Hope you will be a total gentleman 

 

Depends if he gives off the signals. I am a wee bit disappointed he hasn't responded to my offer. I hate when they play hard to get.

[IronJambo]

17 minutes ago, ellie0028 said:

My daughter was asked on a date recently because the guy had got a groupon deal....

 

she he ended up refunding him for the deal, then paid for everything else that night...

 

I asked her why didn’t they just got Dutch and she said it’s was because she was being polite and expect him to say “ no we will go halfers” 

 

I don’t know what’s worse getting a groupon date or paying for it all ?

 

we we now refer to him as Mr Groupon 

"Mr Groupon" ? I'm going on a whim here that Mr Groupon didn't get laid that night. 

[milky_26]

4 minutes ago, IronJambo said:

"Mr Groupon" ? I'm going on a whim here that Mr Groupon didn't get laid that night. 

i'm more interested if mr groupon got a second date?

[Inch Hearts]

15 minutes ago, IronJambo said:

"Mr Groupon" ? I'm going on a whim here that Mr Groupon didn't get laid that night. 

 

Im not sure the girl would reveal such a thing to her mum to be honest.

 

Anyway, pay for dinner and a couple of drinks then take turns after that unless I’m really keen and pay the whole hog.  Second date similar unless I’m less interested then it would be strictly halfers. 

[Inch Hearts]

12 minutes ago, milky_26 said:

i'm more interested if mr groupon got a second date?

 

Bowling for two at the corn exchange - nap. 

[milky_26]

8 minutes ago, Inch Hearts said:

 

Bowling for two at the corn exchange - nap. 

with an all you can eat buffet after

[ellie0028]

Haha! To answer some question

 

There has been no second date and I dont think there will be, they have kept in touch but never spoke about a second date! 

 

My daughter came home after said date so I dont think Mr Groupon got lucky ??? 

 

and the groupon deal was crazy golf! Im surprised she even went for that! 

Then they went to the cinema, no drinks where involved because my daughter had to drive back home

[luckyBatistuta]

37 minutes ago, Herbert said:

 

Depends if he gives off the signals. I am a wee bit disappointed he hasn't responded to my offer. I hate when they play hard to get.

 

[Morgan]

Worked years ago with a guy whose favourite chat-up line was...

 

 

’D’ya fancy going halfers on a b@stard’?

 

[Bridge of Djoum]

5 hours ago, Herbert said:

 

 

Nah I offended him and it takes and as a man I feel i should hold my hands up. I will even take the guy out for a nice meal and a few drinks,my treat IF he wants. 

I'm not offended, friend. It's a thread in the Shed. I don't take it so seriously. 

[milky_26]

7 minutes ago, Morgan said:

Worked years ago with a guy whose favourite chat-up line was...

 

 

’D’ya fancy going halfers on a b@stard’?

 

jonno is such a silver tongued gent

[Inch Hearts]

1 hour ago, milky_26 said:

with an all you can eat buffet after

??

[Inch Hearts]

1 hour ago, ellie0028 said:

Haha! To answer some question

 

There has been no second date and I dont think there will be, they have kept in touch but never spoke about a second date! 

 

My daughter came home after said date so I dont think Mr Groupon got lucky ??? 

 

and the groupon deal was crazy golf! Im surprised she even went for that! 

Then they went to the cinema, no drinks where involved because my daughter had to drive back home

 

Crazy golf is a good shout tbh.  

[Morgan]

1 hour ago, milky_26 said:

jonno is such a silver tongued gent

Not that silver tongued, I can assure you.  

 

That right, @jonnothejambo ?

[Morgan]

1 minute ago, jonnothejambo said:

 

I am new to this thread. Having been married for 35 years I can safely say that I am old school and behaved like a true gentlemen during our wonderful courtship. 

 

My morals are as true today as they were all those years ago. 

 

Bien sûr, mon ami  

 

Some right highland dancers on this thread.

I know.

 

Your post is a good one, my friend.

 

As usual, I was kidding with you.

 

Take care Jonno.

[i8hibsh]

Not sure why the first date is the focal point. Men pay the lion's share of everything, for the entire relationship and beyond.

[luckyBatistuta]

5 hours ago, Inch Hearts said:

Anyway, pay for dinner and a couple of drinks then take turns after that unless I’m really keen and pay the whole hog.  Second date similar unless I’m less interested then it would be strictly halfers. 

 

 

  kind of dates do you go on. Dinner, drinks...then you take turns!!! 

 

 

 

How many are normally on these dates...and you’ve had them come back for a second date too  

[Bridge of Djoum]

1 hour ago, i8hibsh said:

Not sure why the first date is the focal point. Men pay the lion's share of everything, for the entire relationship and beyond.

My wife out earns me comfortably.

 

Show your working, sport.

[i8hibsh]

4 hours ago, Bridge of Djoum said:

My wife out earns me comfortably.

 

Show your working, sport.

 

 

Good and refreshing to hear. You are in the minority tho Djoumy.

[Inch Hearts]

8 hours ago, luckyBatistuta said:

 

 

  kind of dates do you go on. Dinner, drinks...then you take turns!!! 

 

 

 

How many are normally on these dates...and you’ve had them come back for a second date too  

 

Edited November 27, 2018 by Inch Hearts

[Ribble]

Prior to meeting Mrs Ribble i'd have taken the tact of buying the first 2 drinks, if by the end of the second she wasn't at least offering to get the next round then that would be the end of the date.

 

Also think that 'first date' is too broad a term, totally different thing if you have asked someone that you have known a while out on a date compared to todays more common Tinder dates. Would happily pay for a meal with the former but not so much the latter.